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Dealing With a Partner That Cannot Set Boundaries
Limits are essential for all interactions, even if they’re not romantic. Relationship boundaries define the unwanted behaviors of your partner. This article lists the boundaries you can set without endangering your relationship. Let’s say you’ve met the love of your life through Dating Rating. Your partner ticks all your boxes except for one small detail; […]
Can battling infertility cause post traumatic stress disorder?
by Nika Ward Did you know that June is World Infertility Month? If you’re a woman that has experienced infertility, you’re already are aware. Did you know that infertility is a condition that can cause post-traumatic stress disorder? After watching a recent Insecure episode, it really hit me how quiet the infertility community is about […]
25 Commandments for Divorced Dads
UPDATE: We’ve created an eBook and a cute little video to accompany this topic. Some members have reported that their men appreciate when the For Your Man content is packaged more concisely. xoxo Naja Dear Dads, Please know that we admire, love, and adore you which is why we agreed to commit to you for […]
The Time I Broke Up My Client’s Relationship
I’m a Life Coach in real life and I want to share a true story with you. Last year, I had a Client that was beautiful, talented, driven, but just a bit unsure about the trajectory of her life and her relationship. She initially came to me because she was having a hard time dealing […]
The Beginning Stages of Stepmom Grief
My name is Jennifer with Blended Family Hell on Earth. I’ve been a bio mom for 28 years and a stepmom for almost 10 years. Collectively, Hubster and I have 6 kids ages 14, 17, 19 (his) & 21, 25, 28 (mine). In 2010, I went into this “last wife” relationship as a hopeful, romantic, […]
IKIC Ep 022: Naja chats The Unapologetic Stepmom Emili Wadkins
I had a chance to chat with Emili Wadkins, the creator of The Unapologetic Stepmom Facebook Group. We spoke about the common misconceptions of new stepmoms, how to really identify a high conflict mom and how she has managed to remain Unapologetic. Be sure to show her some love and stop by Emili’s pages, Facebook […]
Hey Stepmom, do you need help RIGHT NOW>
I know how you feel I’m well aware that women that chose to pursue relationships with men with kids experience a gamut of emotions such as anxiety, depression, confusion, and helplessness. As a Stepmom, I’ve felt each of these emotions too. It’s really easy to get consumed while coping with a high conflict mom, a […]
50/50 Parenting Report Card is here! My State got an F!
Founder, VIPStepmom, Naja Hall attended the press conference for the National Parents Organization. NPO presented their Shared Parenting Report Card. They also screened the Erasing Family Documentary by Ginger Gentile. New York City and Rhode Island got a big fat F. What is your state’s grade? Check out the Report Card A study just […]
The Disengaged Stepmom: 4 Ways to Step BACK from the pain & hurt of Step parenting
dis·en·gage (dsn-gj) v. dis·en·gaged, dis·en·gag·ing, dis·en·gag·es 1. To release from something that holds fast, connects, or entangles. 2. To release (oneself) from an engagement, pledge, or obligation. To free or detach oneself; withdraw. “Disengage from the situation!” “Just disengage from your stepchild if they are causing you pain!” “I would just disengage from my husband if he was acting like that.” These […]
When Stepmom NEEDS to Step Off: How to Deal With Overbearing Stepmoms
Dear Naja, I, myself, am a stepmom…. but I also have a birth child that I share with my ex and his wife. So in this case, my question is as a birth mom not sure how to deal with a stepmom. My issue is that this stepmom is SERIOUSLY overbearing and does not know […]
Stepmoms, Be Sure To Read the FINE Print
As a Stepmom, you really don’t know what you are getting into until you are in it! If only there was insight or a potential roadmap for your Stepmotherhood journey. Well there is, it’s your partners’ divorce decree and custody agreement. And you should read it! Why you are asking yourself? I should do What? […]
7 Types of Women That Should Never Become Stepmothers
Stepmothering is probably one of the toughest roles I’ve held to date. It’s not even so much the actual ‘mothering’ part. I enjoy being present in the lives of my stepchildren. I’m thankful to have the privilege of watching them grow up. I have been blessed with three really cool humans, so I am one […]
This couple left divorce court and went to lunch
Hannah and Fard have ended their time as life partners and they’ve penned an excerpt that has the internet abuzz. In this day in age, especially considering the work I do, seeing new divorcees breaking bread is RARE. Here are 5 lessons learned in hindsight from Hannah and Fard. We wish their family love and […]
VIPStepmom PODCAST: Would You Still Say YES?
I’m in VIPStepmom launch celebration mode so I’m sharing a taste of just ONE of the exclusive resources for VIPStepmom members! Here is a bonus version of our VIPStepmom podcast! I asked all the ladies, if you knew then, what you know now….would you still say YES? PLEASE follow us on Instagram and Facebook. We […]
Happy Stepmother’s Day (Yes, it’s a REAL thing!
In 2000, 9-year old Lizzie Capuzzi decided that she wanted to celebrate her stepmother, Joyce and felt this should be done on the Sunday following Mother’s day. Lizzie decided to take her celebration a step further by reaching out to U.S. Representative Rick Santorum. On July 11, 2000, it was published in Congressional Record No. […]
17 Quotes About Finding Inner Peace by Lydia Sweatt
When you look deep within yourself, do you see peace or internal conflict? Finding inner peace, achieving peace of mind, is a major life accomplishment—and even though it can be hard to feel peaceful, anyone can work toward a life of harmony, to seek a calm spirit. Related: Secrets for a Happy Brain Give yourself the inner peace you […]
Why is your babymama so ANGRY?!
Real Talk series! Today I had the chance to speak with Ms. Jennifer Pink! She’s a Single Mother advocate and her mission is to help women over come the bondage of anger, bitterness and destruction that happens in co-parenting relationships gone sour. Sign up for a VIPStepmom Membership TODAY! Check out our Facebook Reviews Follow […]
I interviewed Mashonda about coparenting with Alicia Keys
Mashonda, ex-wife of music producer Swizz Beats discusses healing from their messy divorce, forgiving Alicia Keys and putting her son first. In her new book, Blend, she offers tips for mothers that need healing from breakup and divorce. She also details her unique childhood experience in her own blended family. https://youtu.be/kl9RtLz7hns Sign up for a […]
Study a person’s ingredients before you feed them to your soul
There is no such rule that you must accept abuse or disrespect because you now occupy a new role! If you are feeling the heat from your partner’s ex or your stepkids then check out this video! While you may never get them to love you, you can take back your personal peace by unapologetically […]
How to Master Long Distance Coparenting
I sat down with Skyra Thomas, founder of FliptheZip.com, a community that connects people looking to relocate. We discussed a touchy topic that many stepfamilies will face at some point. Skyra has a positive long distance co-parenting relationship with her son’s father and she grew up traveling between both her parent’s households in different cities. […]
Setting Limits with Crazy Bitches
kPaul Elam is quite colorful but he is VERY experienced on personality disordered women. If you are not easily offended, you’ll find some helpful nuggets in his chat about ‘Crazy Bitches”. https://youtu.be/iVznYqY8EEg Sign up for a VIPStepmom Membership TODAY! Check out our Facebook Reviews Follow us on the Gram! Listen to the Podcast If […]
How to EXPOSE the narcissist in Court
How to EXPOSE the narcissist in Court and/or to Psychologist! This video teaches how to prove that a coparent is a narcissist. Visit www.micheleleenieves.com https://youtu.be/N-LFevkioV4 Sign up for a VIPStepmom Membership TODAY! Check out our Facebook Reviews Follow us on the Gram! Listen to the Podcast If you are not yet a member, click HERE […]
6 Ways to Spot a Narcissistic Mother
Living alongside a narcissist is hard work. Co-parenting with a narcissistic is tough. This type of mother seeks sympathy from any audience by positioning herself as the self-sacrificial patron saint of motherhood. While it’s expected that a mom would do anything for her family, this one has an innate need to be admired and acknowledged. […]
How to Handle Disrespectful Stepkids
Are you dealing with disrespectful stepkids? Why would they be disrespectful? Like it or not, phrases like, “You’re not my Mom!” may be thrown around in times of disobedience and defiance. As a pruned at this very moment to defy my Husband and I every chance they get. They are being severely alienated and have […]
