Coach Naja has a realizarion. After 10 years of being adjacent to a HCBM and an overall unfulfilling stepmotherhood experience, one’s spirit can get infected and you all of a sudden realize that you don’t like who you’ve had to become. That STOPS TODAY!” In the PICK UP YOUR CROWN Series, we will be discovering […]
https://youtu.be/bQ2SRYqf1_I Coach Naja chats with Belgium-based content creator @TheStepmomGuy founder Kim Cleyman. Kim is a Dad that helps stepmoms through their journey from a male perspective. Kim shares his unique perspective on navigating tough waters. To connect with Kim on IG visit www.instagram.com/thestepmomguy If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! […]
We typically do not share Naja’s public podcast here, BUT this episode is one that Stepmoms and their partners will appreciate. Watch above or listen to the audio HERE. I Know I’m Crazy by Naja Hall podcast is available EVERYWHERE your fave podcasts are streamed. Naja chats with Coparenting Coach, @Kevin__Meeks. Kevin became a father […]
Hey VIP! The team and I created a new free eBook for new followers & subscribers BUT I wanted to make it available to you. Although you’ve already seen all of this content in the VIPStepmom member portal, I figured you would want to check out this compilation. If you love it, pass it to […]
Coach Bee Chatman chats about the differences between being a custodial stepmom to kids with living and deceased mothers. She also teaches us about our DiSc personality styles and we even do a little role-playing exercise. Coach Bee is the February 2020 covergirl of Stepmom Magazine too! Please check her out HERE. If you are […]
When toxic bio mom and your mother in law link up, it can feel frustrating. An interesting phenomenon occurs when a woman can make your life a living hell, torment your step kids and your partner and paint you as the most wicked person in the world. There’s one lady that still sees hope in […]
Coach Naja shares a fresh take on the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness is a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. It has become an overused internet word but there are few explanations that will help you dive in quickly […]
Naja chats with her internet Bestie, Beth about queerness, stepmotherhood, and her journey of self-rediscovery. Beth McDonough is a Certified Stepfamily Coach and one of three moms raising one feisty redheaded stepdaughter. She specializes in LGBTQ+ issues, being a childless stepmom, infertility, and strengthening stepfamilies through focusing on your relationship with your partner. She is […]
https://youtu.be/sJl9RT1cZYE I had the opportunity to present at Bree Gordon’s Connection Bootcamp and she has been generous enough to allow me to share my recorded session with my VIPs. This session was intense and includes audience interaction. Grab your pen and pad! There were many amazing presenters si if you would like to view the […]
Feelings of rejection from our stepkids can lead to total disengagement and apathy. The first few years of a blended family can be marked with fear, anger, and confusion. Psychology teaches us that it takes the average family 5 to 7 years to blend and those moments can feel excruciating. When a stepmom and her […]
VIPJessica is experiencing hardship because her Husband’s ex has broken up with another boyfriend and she is projecting her wrath with a vengeance. In this episode, Naja teaches how to deal when someone drops their load on your lawn. Be prepared to laugh out loud and make some grand declarations of your own! If […]
Holidays are stressful enough! Throw in the blended family dynamic and a global pandemic and it can be pure pandemonium. Blended family expert, Coach Naja shares some tips on how to stay sane during this holiday season.
In a land far away, HCSMs are trodding around wreaking havoc on their ready-made families. In this VIPod episode, Naja breaks down the why’s behind HCSMs and how to handle the one in your life. If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you want to sign up for […]
Your membership at VIPStepmom.com has major perks! Earn points for doing things you’d normally do on a website like this, like commenting on group conversations, making posts, and reading our awesome content. Your membership essentially pays for itself! Here’s how to earn points: 50 points 1 year membership Anniversary 1 point each time you […]
Below is the transcription of this month’s VIPod. Hello Hello VIPs This is Coach Naja your hostess with the mostess. Okay, that totally didn’t come out how I plan so today I want to talk about the pig. You heard me right today VIPs like going we’re talking about pigs D iD iD iD […]
Being a stepmom is NOT my most important role but… My role as a stepmom was ONCE responsible for 100% of my anxiety, sadness, and displeasure with my relationship. It seemed like the man of my dreams was attached to something from my nightmares. All I wanted to do was have a good relationship, but […]
Corona and Coparenting I’ve received many questions from single parents, coparents, and stepparents during this historic pandemic and my BEST piece of advice is to protect your household. Social distancing and quarantines are proven to be effective methods of limiting the spread of infectious disease BUT what do you do when your child lives in […]
I’ve been digging deep into the mindset of narcissists. I want to humanize them in order to help you to understand them. Ultimately, the goal is to teach how to be less traumatized by their actions. Here is a personal account that Vermeer, a friend of VIPStepmom put together about their […]
https://youtu.be/5fLtXz9w90Q I chatted with Family Law Attorney Kimberly Cook about the implications of social media and how it can harm a court case. Be careful what you put out there because it can be used against you and your family. ABOUT OUR GUEST: Kimberly Cook is a Partner at Schiller DuCanto & Fleck, LLP, the […]
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others This ebook is based is one of the most genius things I’ve ever come across. Basically, a research team, led by John T. Molloy conducted 3,000 interviews. They interviewed couples coming out of marriage license bureaus! They basically bum-rushed these people for information. I recall how excited, […]
I was married for 23 years. Nothing particularly new happened in 23rd year except the culmination of personal unhappiness and lack of communication left unaddressed for years. The result was divorce in the 23rd year. One could say the cause of our divorce was me being unfaithful to my wife. That’s an easy and convenient […]
My clients Denver and Ayshia are a Mom+Stepmom combo that are experiencing a common dilemma. It’s common for children and custodial parents to suffer separation anxiety when the child spends time with their noncustodial parent. This often leads to intrusive phone calls which interrupt bonding time with the child’s other family. During this session, the […]
Q: I’ve had HCBM blocked for 5 years. Since the kids are with us for the summer, DH and I decided to allow her to contact me. That lasted for 2 days!!! “Thanks for taking great care of my kids.” (2 minutes later) “You will never be able to attend a birthday, graduation or wedding […]
Have you ever felt that your man was showing WAY too much grace to his unrelenting coparent? Is he weak? Does he still want her? Is he just stupid? Well, our fellow VIP, Kiya is dealing with this right now. To get the full backstory, click HERE. I recorded a quick video response for her […]
https://youtu.be/8_KWHCDPwD4 Stepmom! Hey girl hey! Here’s a bit of advice that I almost learned TOO LATE! I know it sucks to see your partner deal with conflict from his coparent. As his Wonder Woman, it is natural to want to swoop in and save the day. 🛑Stop🛑 I want you to switch gears and work […]
I got special permission to share this session with you. I sat down with a woman with a HCBD. Here’s a bit of insight, the HCBD’s new partner (and his family) believe he the victim and they are unknowingly furthering his mission to alienate and inflict pain on his ex. Sound familiar? I felt this […]
I’ve been a Blended & Black member since it 1st started and I have seen many women share their stories of incest, molestation and rape. I have never wanted to talk about my rape until now. For so many years, I was embarrassed by the fact that I was raped 96 times over the course […]
UPDATE: Stephens has committed suicide. His body was found at 10am EST April 18. Mental illness is REAL and should not be ignored. The smallest cries for help could be the forewarning of terror and debauchery. While we cannot charge the loved ones of Steve Stephens, should we can hold them accountable? Do we hold our […]
My bonus babies and I have been enjoying quite an active summer! We’ve been venturing around New York City and taking in all that the Big Apple has to offer! But in our downtime, we’ve managed to catch up on a few fun TV programs. If you’re in need of ideas, #TheFam came through with […]