This month’s Expert is Bree Gordon. She’s a Stepmom and she’s a Music Therapist. Her work is so transformative because she helps us use music as a healing tool. in this workshop, she even teaches us how to write our own song. Naja stopped by Bree’s podcast. Listen here. About Bree: Bree earned her Bachelor’s […]
Back on Episode 26 of my public podcast, I Know I’m CRAZY with Naja Hall, April easily became a stepmom fan favorite and she’s back to give IKIC listeners some advice as only she can! This time April is dishing on her relationship with someone’s baby daddy and she gives other stepmoms keen advice […]
Priscilla Appeaning, founder of The Stepmums Club sat down for a candid chat with VIPStepmom. Cilla is responsible for the viral video produced by BBC that forged a tense conversation between biomums and stepmums. In a spirited conversation, Cilla and Naja dug deep into high-conflict coparents, getting ignored by baby mamas, and the cycle of […]
by Jennifer Pink Here’s the question of the day? Are you a high conflict bio parent? In the @VIPStepmom community we use abbreviations or terms instead of names to describe the person we are referring to. One commonly used phrase is HCBM “High Conflict Bio Mom”. In all fairness for the sake of this blog […]
Namaste simply means “The divine in me bows to the divine in you.” “Namaste creates a loop of bliss to pass positive energy unto the one receiving the gesture.” Heart centers and chakras are said to connect during the divine saying. “When your mind is fully withdrawn in super-consciousness, it becomes centered in the bliss […]
Too often women are saddled down with labels. We are constantly forced into a box of good, bad, worthy, unworthy and more. Women are seen as a second-class citizens in society and when it comes to parenting, there is no difference. We often hear men speak on their bitter baby mommas. She doesn’t want […]
By now, we’ve all heard about Richard “Tre” Jenkins, the teen that went from homeless to Harvard. He has been featured on CNN , The Root, Ebony, The New York Post and countless other news outlets. When CNN asked his mom, Quiana, if she was surprised, she said, “No, I always knew he would get in […]
Most mothers reflect fondly upon the day their children were born as one that tested her strength, her faith, her pain tolerance and her undying love for a child she’d never met. The birth bond is so strong that every mother could probably recount everything leading up to the moment her child was born. When […]
I remember being 22 and pregnant with my first daughter. The bold question from my uncle, “Are you prepared to take care of this child by yourself?” continues to resonate to this very day. I assumed he was just being yet another pessimistic, overprotective male family member; yet I had no clue this thought-provoking question […]
At some point in life, you are going to experience unrequited hatred. It can come from an overlooked co-worker, an angry co-parent and even pure strangers. While I do not pretend to be the picture of innocence, I have faced some visceral that I just did not deserve! In the past, I would internalize the […]
Sis, May I have a word with you for a second? There are far too many good men who are fighting to be involved in the life of a child they created only to be constantly turned away by a bio-mom. There is also a statistic of women who are fighting to have their child’s […]
Hypothetically speaking, if your co-parent approached you and gave you their most honest reason explaining why they are high-conflict, inconsistent, or not involved -would you listen and accept their response? Would you offer solutions to help ease them back into your child’s life? Would you berate them and spew insults? I recently posed this question […]
What if I told you that all Babymamas are not evil ? While she may be perceived as bitter, angry or spiteful, she really doesn’t mean to be. Now hear me out! I grew up with a Southern Granny and she had a favorite saying, “pay that no mind”? My Grandmother was trying to communicate […]
I recently read an article written by a woman that admittedly has Daddy issues. She was very open about her struggles with maintaining healthy relationships because of her deeply embedded fear of abandonment. Her lack of trust for her father had resonated throughout many of her interpersonal relationships. Like many people raised by a Single […]
Stepping on my pink soapbox……. Your personal presumptions on a topic, do not make it the gospel. As much as we would like others to see with the same sainthood as Mary of Magdalene, many Single mothers are not afforded that grace. There’s no need to recreate the definition of single parent and redraw the […]