Expert Workshop: Coach Bee chats Custodial Stepmotherhood, loss, & love
https://youtu.be/Bgkf7DgSCk4 Our very own Coach Bee is giving us the low down on custodial stepmotherhood, parenting amidst loss, and learning […]
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VIP Expert Workshop: Your Stepkid is 18! NOW WHAT!?
Coach Naja and Coach Bee have a pseudo-celebration about the day a stepchild turns 18…but what does it really even […]
Ivana Vuletic talks divorce, YELLOW flags, and self care
Coach Ivana gets real and shares her own CURRENT and very personal journey. Most people don’t enter a marriage expecting […]
PICK UP YOUR CROWN, GIRL!
Coach Naja has a realizarion. After 10 years of being adjacent to a HCBM and an overall unfulfilling stepmotherhood experience, […]
VIPodThis is HOW you give yourself permission to STEP away
Coach Naja explores the benefits and drawbacks of learning how to center yourself when the blended family conflict gets to […]
Expert Workshop Coach Anthony visits VIPStepmom
https://youtu.be/kaLHuNf2eVM Coach Naja and Coach Anthony Johnson have a candid chat about the ins and outs of coparenting. After Anthony […]
Ask Naja: My partner still vacations with BM and she refuses to meet me!
One of our fellow Stepsistas is having a bit of a conundrum. Her partner of 3 years can’t seem to […]
Coach Naja chats STEP love, parenthood, and healing
Naja Hall, Founder of VIPStepmom.com, chats with Scarlet Tandy about healing from trauma, conflict, and rising above drama. This lesson […]
Expert Workshop: The Stepmom Guy shares a Dad’s side
https://youtu.be/bQ2SRYqf1_I Coach Naja chats with Belgium-based content creator @TheStepmomGuy founder Kim Cleyman. Kim is a Dad that helps stepmoms through […]
Coach Kevin Meeks on family court, marriage, and growing up with his kids
We typically do not share Naja’s public podcast here, BUT this episode is one that Stepmoms and their partners will […]
What about High Conflict BioDads?
We have many Stepmoms that are biological mothers. And while you deal with an HCBM, many may also deal with […]
How to HANDLE parentified stepkids (the VIP way!)
Coach Naja discusses child the two types of parentification: instrumental and emotional. Instrumental parentification includes functional responsibilities and physical tasks […]
New eBook for ya!
Hey VIP! The team and I created a new free eBook for new followers & subscribers BUT I wanted to […]
A live Stepmom Q&A with Coach Naja
Coach Naja chats with the VIP community for an unabashed Q& A session about some of the common challenges most […]
Coach Bee Chatman chats custodial stepmotherhood
Coach Bee Chatman chats about the differences between being a custodial stepmom to kids with living and deceased mothers. She […]
When you JUST cannot hold space for HCBM
https://youtu.be/1HaNumuDtlM I made a post on the VIPStepmom IG page that sparked a great conversation and many shared sentiments. I […]
025: Saddle up! It’s time to go to COURT!
Sadly, for some of us, the only way to get justice for our stepfamilies is to have our day in […]
025: Every Stepmom has thought about Divorce Atleast Once
This month, I sat down with my friend, Kate Anthony. Her name may sound familiar as I’ve collaborated with her […]
Vipod 24: Should You Tell Your Stepkids Their Mom is Bad?
Stepmoms that have to deal with high conflict biomoms often feel the need to vindicate their positions and expose the […]
VIP Expert Workshop: When YOUR partner is part of the problem
https://youtu.be/7yTKK3YBe7o Coach Naja posed a question to the VIPStepmom online community and the responses were quite interesting. It seems that […]
New Course Announcement! Team Toxic Tammy -When BM+MIL Team Up
When toxic bio mom and your mother in law link up, it can feel frustrating. An interesting phenomenon occurs when […]
VIPod: How does a Therapist Stepmom deal with a HCBM?!
Naja chats with tiktok sensation and psychotherapist Stephanie Ward about childhood trauma and how to become the parent you wish […]
The practice of Mindfulness is finally simplified
Coach Naja shares a fresh take on the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness is a mental state achieved by focusing one’s […]
Expert Workshop: Beth McDonough talks Inclusivity, Speaking up, and Coming Out!
Naja chats with her internet Bestie, Beth about queerness, stepmotherhood, and her journey of self-rediscovery. Beth McDonough is a Certified […]
How to handle a partner that can’t set boundaries
This month’s Expert Workshop host is Coach Brittany Simo. She is chatting about boundaries and the steps to take when […]
VIP Expert Workshop: Defining the relationship with Biomom
This month’s guest expert is Kisha Batsuli of Blendedontherock.com. Kisha’s 2017 wedding dance went viral because she invited her new […]
When your partner’s stuff becomes TOO much
We tend to take on our partner’s “stuff” because we love them and we want to see them happy. As […]
Coach Naja breaks down complicated family dynamics
https://youtu.be/sJl9RT1cZYE I had the opportunity to present at Bree Gordon’s Connection Bootcamp and she has been generous enough to allow […]
Vipod: Naja explains EXACTLY how to be an unbothered stepmom
Naja frequently mentions being an unbothered stepmom. In this episode, she breakdown how to go from frazzled to unbothered. The […]
Expert Workshop: When stepkids ignore you
As stepmothers, we pride ourselves on making our homes our sanctuaries. With so many outside factors that affect our happiness, […]
VIPod 020: When HCBM is actually mentally ill
https://youtu.be/0amX3eQQerM Coach Naja and Christina Nelson, host of The Radical Stepmoms Podcast chat about dealing with a diagnosed HCBM. […]
Expert Workshop: Is your stepchild manipulative or just SCARED?
Feelings of rejection from our stepkids can lead to total disengagement and apathy. The first few years of a blended […]
VIPod 019: When The Revolving Door Hits You
VIPJessica is experiencing hardship because her Husband’s ex has broken up with another boyfriend and she is projecting her wrath […]
018: Belinda Munro talks juggling her high profile career, motherhood, & stepmotherhood
Belinda Munro stopped by to catch up with Naja and reminisce on their days as single Harlem girls. She […]
How to finesse the Stepmom Holiday Stress
Holidays are stressful enough! Throw in the blended family dynamic and a global pandemic and it can be pure pandemonium. […]
Stepfamily Coach Naja Hall shares her personal experiences
Coach Naja answers some very specific questions about her stepmom journey. A podcast listener got curious about your fave expert […]
VIPod 017: Are High Conflict Stepmoms REALLY real??!!
In a land far away, HCSMs are trodding around wreaking havoc on their ready-made families. In this VIPod episode, Naja […]
VIPod 016: What to do when “drama” disrupts your good energy
Coach Naja delves into the cosmos and uncovers why certain stepmoms cannot overcome distractions from blended family drama. Distractions can […]
Expert Workshop: When words become weapons
So often, we find ourselves caught up in the words and ramblings from the “other household”. Sticks and stones can […]
I Don’t Do Drama Mamas
One of my absolute favorite topics to help clients tackle is high conflict people, mainly HCBMs. What I’ve found is […]
Expert Workshop: @dopemombrand shares her ah-ha moment with biomom
Sherelle Avery, founder of @dopemombrand discusses her journey from being a stepmom with 2 HCBMs to reaching a place of […]
Dealing With a Partner That Cannot Set Boundaries
Limits are essential for all interactions, even if they’re not romantic. Relationship boundaries define the unwanted behaviors of your partner. […]
VIPod 015: How To Help Your Partner Battle Alienation
Parental alienation is something that most blended families will experience at some point. It can extremely intentional or passive. Either […]
Expert Workshop: The ABCs of dealing with Older Stepkids
Brittany Chatman is the owner of Chat With Bee, a popular lifestyle and social community. She’s an Air Force (Ret.) […]
How to earn and redeem points
Your membership at VIPStepmom.com has major perks! Earn points for doing things you’d normally do on a website like […]
VIPod 014: When Stepmom Wrestles With a Pig
Below is the transcription of this month’s VIPod. Hello Hello VIPs This is Coach Naja your hostess with the […]
Expert Workshop: Music Therapist Bree Gordon
This month’s Expert is Bree Gordon. She’s a Stepmom and she’s a Music Therapist. Her work is so transformative because […]
013: Five Ways To Know When It’s Time To Walk Away From Your Relationship
Back on Episode 26 of my public podcast, I Know I’m CRAZY with Naja Hall, April easily became a […]
Can battling infertility cause post traumatic stress disorder?
by Nika Ward Did you know that June is World Infertility Month? If you’re a woman that has experienced infertility, […]
Expert Interview: Cilla From The Stepmums Club stops by
Priscilla Appeaning, founder of The Stepmums Club sat down for a candid chat with VIPStepmom. Cilla is responsible for the […]
Expert Workshop: Kate Chapman talks divorce aftermath
When I was a baby blogger, Kate Chapman was one of the seasoned experts that sewed into my work. She […]
VIPod #12: Girl, You DON’T have to marry him!!!
I was chatting with one of my mentors this morning @davidegoodin and he said, “Ya know young lady, the problem […]
Message from Naja
Being a stepmom is NOT my most important role but… My role as a stepmom was ONCE responsible for 100% […]
25 Commandments for Divorced Dads
UPDATE: We’ve created an eBook and a cute little video to accompany this topic. Some members have reported that their […]
Cognitive Distortions are Killing Stepmoms
Resource Guide to Understanding Cognitive Distortions Take Naja’s Cognitive Distortions Course Listen to Cognitive Distortions podcast (or watch it HERE) […]
VIPod Ep 11: Stop lying to yourself
Naja chats about the lies that we tell ourselves and ways to conquer those gross little thoughts in our minds. […]
Expert Workshop: Naja demonstrates a real life Conflict
As a Master Stepfamily Coach, my days are filled with sorting through the lamentations of individuals and stepfamilies in transition. […]
The Time I Broke Up My Client’s Relationship
I’m a Life Coach in real life and I want to share a true story with you. Last year, I […]
Coronavirus & CoParenting
Corona and Coparenting I’ve received many questions from single parents, coparents, and stepparents during this historic pandemic and my BEST […]
Expert Workshop: Stepmom Infertility with Kristen Skiles
Naja Hall, founder of VIPStepmom.com recently sat down with Kristen Skiles of Stepmomming.com to chat on childless stepmoms, infertility, and […]
VIPod 010: Kristen Skiles of @stepmomming shares her Stepmom Shock Moments
Kristen Skiles of the popular blog stepmomming.com, stopped by to share some of the most surprising things she experienced as […]
Expert Workshop: Naja’s Mom discusses her stepmom, marriage, and gives womanly advice
https://youtu.be/hKhQarBkuxE Nancy, my mom chats on 43 years of marriage. Mom dishes advice on how she stayed married to my […]
Masterclass for Burned Out Stepmoms
I recently held a live Masterclass for For Burned Out Stepmoms and of course my VIPs get easy access […]
VIPod 09: What happens if your man becomes incapacitated?
The death of 41-year old basketball star, Kobe Bryant, leads Naja to share an up-close and personal story of her […]
Expert Workshop: How To Know When Your Relationship Is Over
https://youtu.be/93MmhUSU5KI In this month’s expert workshop, Naja sat down with psychologist @Dr. Jennelle to discuss a topic very familiar to […]
The Beginning Stages of Stepmom Grief
My name is Jennifer with Blended Family Hell on Earth. I’ve been a bio mom for 28 years and a […]
VIPod 08: What happens when you feel “sorry” for your stepkids
When our stepkids seem to suffer from their parents’ actions, it’s natural to feel sad for them. In this episode, […]
Workshop: Custodial Stepmoms Need Love Too
In this month’s Expert Workshop, I chat with Coach Latoya C. She has been married for 14 years and her […]
VIPod 07: How to get rid of the stepmom holiday blues
The holiday season is usually an exciting time for many Americans. While most are preparing to spend quality time with […]
VIPod 06: Meditation of Abundance by Kathy Freston
OMG VIPs! My beautiful friend Karen shared this with me and I wanted to pass it on to women that […]
Expert Workshop: When your man is torn between two households
For this month’s Expert Workshop, I chatted with Bill Gobin, a custodial dad that went to family court 47 times […]
05: What EVERY Man wants the Stepmom He Loves To Know
Part of my job as a key support system for Stepmoms is to ALSO support the men you love. Our […]
Announcement: We have a section FOR YOUR MAN
How many times have you read an article that totally speaks to your stepmom struggles and got excited? You instantly feel the notion that the author understands your pain and you send the link to your man in hopes that he’ll get it too? The problem is your man has a tough time seeing things from your perspective because that article was for you, NOT HIM!
We want your Man to be just as invested in results as you are. There are so many tools out there for stepmoms, and now we’re pouring efforts into helping HIM cope with his HCBM, teaching HIM how to deal with dad guilt and much more. Visit www.VIPStepmom.com to join today!
*A membership costs less than a glass of wine 🙂
IKIC Ep 022: Naja chats The Unapologetic Stepmom Emili Wadkins
I had a chance to chat with Emili Wadkins, the creator of The Unapologetic Stepmom Facebook Group. We spoke about […]
Hey Stepmom, do you need help RIGHT NOW>
I know how you feel I’m well aware that women that chose to pursue relationships with men with kids experience […]
50/50 Parenting Report Card is here! My State got an F!
Founder, VIPStepmom, Naja Hall attended the press conference for the National Parents Organization. NPO presented their Shared Parenting Report […]
I was raised by a narcissistic dad
I’ve been digging deep into the mindset of narcissists. I want to humanize them in order […]
Naja teaches an engaged Stepmom how to be FIRM
Naja sits with Kennisha (biomom of 3), an engaged SM who is trying to learn tools to maintain her sanity […]
VIPod 04: Biomom refuses to acknowledge my existence
Does your stepkid’s mom refuse to recognize the contribution you make to her kid’s life? Naja chats about the lack […]
4 Key Causes Of Stepmama Drama
I’ve built an entire coaching practice around Comama Drama. When I began my studies, the question I aimed to answer […]
VIPod 03: *New ways to bond with difficult stepkids
I chatted with The Teenager Whisperer, Kirsten Cobabe for my public podcast, “I know I’m crazy.” After we wrapped up […]
Workshop: Stick & Stones May Break You Bones, but Social Media Can Really Hurt You
https://youtu.be/5fLtXz9w90Q I chatted with Family Law Attorney Kimberly Cook about the implications of social media and how it can harm […]
How To Tell If He Will Ever Marry You
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others This ebook is based is one of the most genius things I’ve […]
Why I Divorced After 23 Years of Marriage
I was married for 23 years. Nothing particularly new happened in 23rd year except the culmination of personal unhappiness and […]
ASK NAJA: I resent Biomom because all the pain she caused my man
Q: Last night my fiance revealed some things to me that I was not aware of. Prior to our relationship, […]
Ask Naja: Should my Husband and I tell his Ex we’re expecting
My husband and I have joint custody of a loving 3-year-old. His mother and I are on pretty good terms […]
LIVE COACHING SESSION: What happens when Mom calls too much?
My clients Denver and Ayshia are a Mom+Stepmom combo that are experiencing a common dilemma. It’s common for children and […]
ASK NAJA: BM is a terrorist but my Stepkids love me
Q: I’ve had HCBM blocked for 5 years. Since the kids are with us for the summer, DH and I […]
3 common mistakes of a new Stepparent. Oops!
Guest submission When I began my journey as a stepmother, I was 26, about 7 months pregnant with twins, completing […]
Are You a High Conflict Bio Parent?
by Jennifer Pink Here’s the question of the day? Are you a high conflict bio parent? In the @VIPStepmom community […]
Ask Naja: My Stepdaughter won’t visit unless we PAY her!
My Stepdaughter got $450 for birthday and Christmas from her dad and I, and other members of my family (grandparents etc). Her […]
The Disengaged Stepmom: 4 Ways to Step BACK from the pain & hurt of Step parenting
dis·en·gage (dsn-gj) v. dis·en·gaged, dis·en·gag·ing, dis·en·gag·es 1. To release from something that holds fast, connects, or entangles. 2. To release (oneself) from an engagement, pledge, or […]
Group Coaching: The Accountability Circle
https://youtu.be/1g-4QvqmOMM This month we had a great coaching call. Each member told us how she has contributed to the […]
VIP Advice: My man is still helping his babymama
Have you ever felt that your man was showing WAY too much grace to his unrelenting coparent? Is he weak? […]
Surprise Stepmom! You’ve got custody!
Naja Hall chats with Lisa Williams, a coach and custodial stepmom. She became an unexpected full-time stepmother to a recently […]
VIPod Ep 02: Smells Like Teen Spirit: How To Deal With Teen Stepchildren
https://youtu.be/hggMQ_Hm8lU This is probably going to be my longest podcast ever, but I had to get a whole lotta ish […]
When Stepmom NEEDS to Step Off: How to Deal With Overbearing Stepmoms
Dear Naja, I, myself, am a stepmom…. but I also have a birth child that I share with my ex […]
How To Kick BioMom Outta Your Relationship
https://youtu.be/8_KWHCDPwD4 Stepmom! Hey girl hey! Here’s a bit of advice that I almost learned TOO LATE! I know it sucks […]
Stepmoms, Be Sure To Read the FINE Print
As a Stepmom, you really don’t know what you are getting into until you are in it! If only there […]
7 Types of Women That Should Never Become Stepmothers
Stepmothering is probably one of the toughest roles I’ve held to date. It’s not even so much the actual ‘mothering’ […]