https://youtu.be/Bgkf7DgSCk4 Our very own Coach Bee is giving us the low down on custodial stepmotherhood, parenting amidst loss, and learning to work with deceased biomom’s family. Grab your pen and pad and take notes because Coach is taking us to school. If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you […]
Coach Naja and Coach Bee have a pseudo-celebration about the day a stepchild turns 18…but what does it really even mean? Is it some major milestone toward Stepmom heaven or is it just more of the same? https://youtu.be/_IDHycuh7rs If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you want to […]
Coach Ivana gets real and shares her own CURRENT and very personal journey. Most people don’t enter a marriage expecting divorce, but sadly, the D-Word is her next challenge. Check out her take on love, self-care, and how to move forward. Please follow her everywhere! Watch directly on Youtube HERE or below! https://www.tiktok.com/@selfcarved https://www.tiktok.com/@selfcarved https://www.youtube.com/@SelfCarved […]
https://youtu.be/kaLHuNf2eVM Coach Naja and Coach Anthony Johnson have a candid chat about the ins and outs of coparenting. After Anthony and his coparent ended their romantic relationship, he spent time learning how to take his family away from hardship to love. It wasn’t always easy for him, but today he helps other families, individuals, and […]
Naja Hall, Founder of VIPStepmom.com, chats with Scarlet Tandy about healing from trauma, conflict, and rising above drama. This lesson is packed full of gems and teachable moments so grab a pen and pad! https://youtu.be/bLN6MShMLQ4 If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you want to sign up […]
https://youtu.be/bQ2SRYqf1_I Coach Naja chats with Belgium-based content creator @TheStepmomGuy founder Kim Cleyman. Kim is a Dad that helps stepmoms through their journey from a male perspective. Kim shares his unique perspective on navigating tough waters. To connect with Kim on IG visit www.instagram.com/thestepmomguy If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! […]
Coach Naja discusses child the two types of parentification: instrumental and emotional. Instrumental parentification includes functional responsibilities and physical tasks given to a child that isn’t age-appropriate. Emotional parentification is when one or both parents turn to their child to fulfill their emotional needs. This is considered the more problematic and damaging type of parentification. […]
Coach Naja chats with the VIP community for an unabashed Q& A session about some of the common challenges most stepmoms will face at some point during their journey. Below are the topics that were covered if you’d like to jump to your favorite part of the video. https://youtu.be/_gmZWlYPM3Q Topics 1. Should you find BM […]
https://youtu.be/1HaNumuDtlM I made a post on the VIPStepmom IG page that sparked a great conversation and many shared sentiments. I wanted to go more into detail regarding the meaning behind the post and break down the act of “holding space”. If you missed the post, here is the copy. “Dear stepchild. I know you love […]
This month, I sat down with my friend, Kate Anthony. Her name may sound familiar as I’ve collaborated with her countless times and we literally have so much fun together. Check out our interview on my podcast I Know I’m Crazy Today Kate and I are discussing divorce- something that’s crossed the mind of just […]
https://youtu.be/7yTKK3YBe7o Coach Naja posed a question to the VIPStepmom online community and the responses were quite interesting. It seems that some of our partners are not as passe as we’d like to think and they have a hand in perpetuating the drama with their coparent. This Expert Workshop discusses ways that we can help our […]
Coach Naja shares a fresh take on the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness is a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. It has become an overused internet word but there are few explanations that will help you dive in quickly […]
This month’s Expert Workshop host is Coach Brittany Simo. She is chatting about boundaries and the steps to take when your partner cannot set them. Coach Brittany gives a play-by-play on how to not only “deal” but how to help your partner asset themselves with their kids and coparent. Visit Coach Brittany online www.brittanysimo.com. https://youtu.be/C2FCCcx6eBE […]
This month’s guest expert is Kisha Batsuli of Blendedontherock.com. Kisha’s 2017 wedding dance went viral because she invited her new stepson’s mother to do a family dance at her wedding! During this workshop, Kisha shares how she managed that awesome feat and where her own stepmom/biomom relationship stands today. https://youtu.be/9SZOptbQLpM If you are not yet […]
As stepmothers, we pride ourselves on making our homes our sanctuaries. With so many outside factors that affect our happiness, our relationships, and our balance, stepmoms can face some immeasurable points of stress. Coach Naja is breaking down best practices for stepmoms whose stepkids have gotten comfortable ignoring them! https://youtu.be/oz3o5s110EQ If you are not yet […]
https://youtu.be/0amX3eQQerM Coach Naja and Christina Nelson, host of The Radical Stepmoms Podcast chat about dealing with a diagnosed HCBM. It’s a whole different ballgame when there is tangible proof that your stepkid’s mum has a verified mental illness or personality disorder. There are two ways to grab this content. If you enjoyed this chat, […]
Feelings of rejection from our stepkids can lead to total disengagement and apathy. The first few years of a blended family can be marked with fear, anger, and confusion. Psychology teaches us that it takes the average family 5 to 7 years to blend and those moments can feel excruciating. When a stepmom and her […]
So often, we find ourselves caught up in the words and ramblings from the “other household”. Sticks and stones can break our bones, but words can cause PTSD! Coach Naja discusses ways to diffuse what “she said” and how to squash crippling thoughts before they cause a mental infestation. Many times a biomom can spew […]
One of my absolute favorite topics to help clients tackle is high conflict people, mainly HCBMs. What I’ve found is they’re not big, scary monsters. They’re just pitiful beings that live their lives based on survival. While it’s nice to show compassion, these types of people can traumatize you and suck you into their dark […]
Sherelle Avery, founder of @dopemombrand discusses her journey from being a stepmom with 2 HCBMs to reaching a place of peace. Sherelle says, “I’ve learned so much over the years, so many ups and downs. I’m the step-parent who had to learn by trial and error. The step-parent who found the invisible boundaries and learned […]
When I was a baby blogger, Kate Chapman was one of the seasoned experts that sewed into my work. She took the time to befriend me, and she even contributed to my mission. Over the years, Kate’s impact on the blended family community still holds true and she stopped by to chat grief, stepparenting, and […]
As a Master Stepfamily Coach, my days are filled with sorting through the lamentations of individuals and stepfamilies in transition. As a stepmom, I have a personal and a professional vantage point that allows me to help my clients navigate their emotions because I’ve experienced some of the exact feelings. In this tutorial, I decided to […]
Naja Hall, founder of VIPStepmom.com recently sat down with Kristen Skiles of Stepmomming.com to chat on childless stepmoms, infertility, and how to deal with the complex feelings that come along with such a circumstance. Infertility affects women and men equally (15 million people in the U.S. annually). … For women between 26 to 34 years, 13% […]
https://youtu.be/hKhQarBkuxE Nancy, my mom chats on 43 years of marriage. Mom dishes advice on how she stayed married to my dad. At one point I ask her if she understands my job, is she proud of me and has she forgiven her father for abandoning my Grandma. This is probably the most in-depth conversation I’ve […]
I recently held a live Masterclass for For Burned Out Stepmoms and of course my VIPs get easy access to the replay! If you attended, then you know this was a transformational session. We got to connect, learn, and grow. Just a heads up, this is a very intense session and there is a lot […]
https://youtu.be/93MmhUSU5KI In this month’s expert workshop, Naja sat down with psychologist @Dr. Jennelle to discuss a topic very familiar to women in our community. At some point in our relationships, stepmoms think about calling it quits because this role can be too much. When surveyed, over 64% of VIPStepmoms replied that if they could have […]
In this month’s Expert Workshop, I chat with Coach Latoya C. She has been married for 14 years and her custodial stepmothehood experience has taught her many lessons on humility, patience, and love. Although her two stepchildren are older, she can very much observe the aftermath of coexisting with a HCBM. Also, she JUST became […]
For this month’s Expert Workshop, I chatted with Bill Gobin, a custodial dad that went to family court 47 times AND WON! As a fellow coach, Bill provides the perspective of a Dad that successfully navigated two HCBMs. So many stepmoms suffer because their men do not know how to stand up to BM and/or […]
I chatted with The Teenager Whisperer, Kirsten Cobabe for my public podcast, “I know I’m crazy.” After we wrapped up the public portion, she and I broke away to discuss stepmom specific tactics. She has a very unorthodox way of dealing with teenagers and I think this will help many of us understand the positions […]