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Expert Workshop: Coach Bee chats Custodial Stepmotherhood, loss, & love

https://youtu.be/Bgkf7DgSCk4 Our very own Coach Bee is giving us the low down on custodial stepmotherhood, parenting amidst loss, and learning to work with deceased biomom’s family. Grab your pen and pad and take notes because Coach is taking us to school. If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you […]

VIP Expert Workshop: Your Stepkid is 18! NOW WHAT!?

Coach Naja and Coach Bee have a pseudo-celebration about the day a stepchild turns 18…but what does it really even mean? Is it some major milestone toward Stepmom heaven or is it just more of the same? https://youtu.be/_IDHycuh7rs If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you want to […]

Ivana Vuletic talks divorce, YELLOW flags, and self care

Coach Ivana gets real and shares her own CURRENT and very personal journey. Most people don’t enter a marriage expecting divorce, but sadly, the D-Word is her next challenge. Check out her take on love, self-care, and how to move forward. Please follow her everywhere! Watch directly on Youtube HERE or below! https://www.tiktok.com/@selfcarved https://www.tiktok.com/@selfcarved https://www.youtube.com/@SelfCarved […]

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PICK UP YOUR CROWN, GIRL!

Coach Naja has a realizarion. After 10 years of being adjacent to a HCBM and an overall unfulfilling stepmotherhood experience, one’s spirit can get infected and you all of a sudden realize that you don’t like who you’ve had to become. That STOPS TODAY!” In the PICK UP YOUR CROWN Series, we will be discovering […]

VIPodThis is HOW you give yourself permission to STEP away

Coach Naja explores the benefits and drawbacks of learning how to center yourself when the blended family conflict gets to be too much. Mom and stepmom guilt can run rampant and it can really be tough on your psyche, your relationship, and your whole life. In this episode, we explore ways to give ourselves permission […]

Expert Workshop Coach Anthony visits VIPStepmom

https://youtu.be/kaLHuNf2eVM Coach Naja and Coach Anthony Johnson have a candid chat about the ins and outs of coparenting. After Anthony and his coparent ended their romantic relationship, he spent time learning how to take his family away from hardship to love. It wasn’t always easy for him, but today he helps other families, individuals, and […]

Ask Naja: My partner still vacations with BM and she refuses to meet me!

One of our fellow Stepsistas is having a bit of a conundrum. Her partner of 3 years can’t seem to shake his ex-wife. The ex wants her family back but this boyfriend that’s playing both sides has assured our sis that he only has eyes for her! Check out my candid advice here or listen […]

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Coach Naja chats STEP love, parenthood, and healing

Naja Hall, Founder of VIPStepmom.com, chats with Scarlet Tandy about healing from trauma, conflict, and rising above drama. This lesson is packed full of gems and teachable moments so grab a pen and pad! https://youtu.be/bLN6MShMLQ4 If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you want to sign up […]

Expert Workshop: The Stepmom Guy shares a Dad’s side

https://youtu.be/bQ2SRYqf1_I Coach Naja chats with Belgium-based content creator @TheStepmomGuy founder Kim Cleyman. Kim is a Dad that helps stepmoms through their journey from a male perspective. Kim shares his unique perspective on navigating tough waters. To connect with Kim on IG visit www.instagram.com/thestepmomguy If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! […]

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What about High Conflict BioDads?

We have many Stepmoms that are biological mothers. And while you deal with an HCBM, many may also deal with undesirable coparenting situations. High conflict biodads are a very real thing and today Coach Naja is breaking down the similarities, the differences, and how to handle an HCBD. Save the link to listen later […]

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How to HANDLE parentified stepkids (the VIP way!)

Coach Naja discusses child the two types of parentification: instrumental and emotional. Instrumental parentification includes functional responsibilities and physical tasks given to a child that isn’t age-appropriate. Emotional parentification is when one or both parents turn to their child to fulfill their emotional needs. This is considered the more problematic and damaging type of parentification. […]

New eBook for ya!

Hey VIP! The team and I created a new free eBook for new followers & subscribers BUT I wanted to make it available to you. Although you’ve already seen all of this content in the VIPStepmom member portal, I figured you would want to check out this compilation. If you love it, pass it to […]

A live Stepmom Q&A with Coach Naja

Coach Naja chats with the VIP community for an unabashed Q& A session about some of the common challenges most stepmoms will face at some point during their journey. Below are the topics that were covered if you’d like to jump to your favorite part of the video. https://youtu.be/_gmZWlYPM3Q Topics 1. Should you find BM […]

Coach Bee Chatman chats custodial stepmotherhood

Coach Bee Chatman chats about the differences between being a custodial stepmom to kids with living and deceased mothers. She also teaches us about our DiSc personality styles and we even do a little role-playing exercise. Coach Bee is the February 2020 covergirl of Stepmom Magazine too! Please check her out HERE. If you are […]

When you JUST cannot hold space for HCBM

https://youtu.be/1HaNumuDtlM I made a post on the VIPStepmom IG page that sparked a great conversation and many shared sentiments. I wanted to go more into detail regarding the meaning behind the post and break down the act of “holding space”. If you missed the post, here is the copy. “Dear stepchild. I know you love […]

025: Saddle up! It’s time to go to COURT!

Sadly, for some of us, the only way to get justice for our stepfamilies is to have our day in court. In this episode, Coach Naja lays out a clear plan of action for before, during, and after your BIG DAY. When we all “can’t just get along” there are some best practices to keep […]

025: Every Stepmom has thought about Divorce Atleast Once

This month, I sat down with my friend, Kate Anthony. Her name may sound familiar as I’ve collaborated with her countless times and we literally have so much fun together. Check out our interview on my podcast I Know I’m Crazy Today Kate and I are discussing divorce- something that’s crossed the mind of just […]

Vipod 24: Should You Tell Your Stepkids Their Mom is Bad?

Stepmoms that have to deal with high conflict biomoms often feel the need to vindicate their positions and expose the “truth” to their stepkids. The problem lies in the fact that our own personal experiences with these women do not often mirror our stepkid’s experiences with their mothers. In this month’s VIPod, Coach Naja discusses […]

VIP Expert Workshop: When YOUR partner is part of the problem

https://youtu.be/7yTKK3YBe7o Coach Naja posed a question to the VIPStepmom online community and the responses were quite interesting. It seems that some of our partners are not as passe as we’d like to think and they have a hand in perpetuating the drama with their coparent. This Expert Workshop discusses ways that we can help our […]

New Course Announcement! Team Toxic Tammy -When BM+MIL Team Up

When toxic bio mom and your mother in law link up, it can feel frustrating. An interesting phenomenon occurs when a woman can make your life a living hell, torment your step kids and your partner and paint you as the most wicked person in the world. There’s one lady that still sees hope in […]

The practice of Mindfulness is finally simplified

Coach Naja shares a fresh take on the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness is a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. It has become an overused internet word but there are few explanations that will help you dive in quickly […]

Expert Workshop: Beth McDonough talks Inclusivity, Speaking up, and Coming Out!

Naja chats with her internet Bestie, Beth about queerness, stepmotherhood, and her journey of self-rediscovery. Beth McDonough is a Certified Stepfamily Coach and one of three moms raising one feisty redheaded stepdaughter. She specializes in LGBTQ+ issues, being a childless stepmom, infertility, and strengthening stepfamilies through focusing on your relationship with your partner. She is […]

How to handle a partner that can’t set boundaries

This month’s Expert Workshop host is Coach Brittany Simo. She is chatting about boundaries and the steps to take when your partner cannot set them. Coach Brittany gives a play-by-play on how to not only “deal” but how to help your partner asset themselves with their kids and coparent. Visit Coach Brittany online www.brittanysimo.com. https://youtu.be/C2FCCcx6eBE […]

VIP Expert Workshop: Defining the relationship with Biomom

This month’s guest expert is Kisha Batsuli of Blendedontherock.com. Kisha’s 2017 wedding dance went viral because she invited her new stepson’s mother to do a family dance at her wedding! During this workshop, Kisha shares how she managed that awesome feat and where her own stepmom/biomom relationship stands today. https://youtu.be/9SZOptbQLpM If you are not yet […]

When your partner’s stuff becomes TOO much

We tend to take on our partner’s “stuff” because we love them and we want to see them happy. As stepmoms, the utter helpless feeling of servitude can cause resentment and make you feel outright tired! As Coach Naja (respectfully) compares a Caregiver’s role to your role as a Stepmom, you will begin to reframe […]

Coach Naja breaks down complicated family dynamics

https://youtu.be/sJl9RT1cZYE I had the opportunity to present at Bree Gordon’s Connection Bootcamp and she has been generous enough to allow me to share my recorded session with my VIPs. This session was intense and includes audience interaction. Grab your pen and pad! There were many amazing presenters si if you would like to view the […]

Vipod: Naja explains EXACTLY how to be an unbothered stepmom

Naja frequently mentions being an unbothered stepmom. In this episode, she breakdown how to go from frazzled to unbothered. The process does not have to be a long or arduous but it does take a serious commitment. Grab a pen and paper and prepare to have that heavy weight lifted off your shoulders. If […]

Expert Workshop: When stepkids ignore you

As stepmothers, we pride ourselves on making our homes our sanctuaries. With so many outside factors that affect our happiness, our relationships, and our balance, stepmoms can face some immeasurable points of stress. Coach Naja is breaking down best practices for stepmoms whose stepkids have gotten comfortable ignoring them! https://youtu.be/oz3o5s110EQ If you are not yet […]

VIPod 020: When HCBM is actually mentally ill

https://youtu.be/0amX3eQQerM Coach Naja and Christina Nelson, host of The Radical Stepmoms Podcast chat about dealing with a diagnosed HCBM. It’s a whole different ballgame when there is tangible proof that your stepkid’s mum has a verified mental illness or personality disorder. There are two ways to grab this content. If you enjoyed this chat, […]

Expert Workshop: Is your stepchild manipulative or just SCARED?

Feelings of rejection from our stepkids can lead to total disengagement and apathy. The first few years of a blended family can be marked with fear, anger, and confusion. Psychology teaches us that it takes the average family 5 to 7 years to blend and those moments can feel excruciating. When a stepmom and her […]

VIPod 019: When The Revolving Door Hits You

VIPJessica is experiencing hardship because her Husband’s ex has broken up with another boyfriend and she is projecting her wrath with a vengeance. In this episode, Naja teaches how to deal when someone drops their load on your lawn. Be prepared to laugh out loud and make some grand declarations of your own! If […]

018: Belinda Munro talks juggling her high profile career, motherhood, & stepmotherhood

Belinda Munro stopped by to catch up with Naja and reminisce on their days as single Harlem girls. She talks glow up, marriage, stepparenting, fertility, and much much more! Belinda is a multi-talented Vocalist, Songwriter, Performance Coach, and Mentor who ignites the unspoken with her Powerful vocals, grace, poise, and dynamic stage presence. She […]

Stepfamily Coach Naja Hall shares her personal experiences

Coach Naja answers some very specific questions about her stepmom journey. A podcast listener got curious about your fave expert and decided to shoot her shot by asking Naja some specifics about her own circumstances. In this very transparent interview, Naja discusses what she would do if her stepkids came to love with her, how […]

VIPod 017: Are High Conflict Stepmoms REALLY real??!!

In a land far away, HCSMs are trodding around wreaking havoc on their ready-made families. In this VIPod episode, Naja breaks down the why’s behind HCSMs and how to handle the one in your life. If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you want to sign up for […]

VIPod 016: What to do when “drama” disrupts your good energy

Coach Naja delves into the cosmos and uncovers why certain stepmoms cannot overcome distractions from blended family drama. Distractions can derail progress and throw us irreparably off course and they can set up a never-ending cycle of confusion. Dive into this episode to learn how to escape the matrix and free yourself. If you are […]

Expert Workshop: When words become weapons

So often, we find ourselves caught up in the words and ramblings from the “other household”. Sticks and stones can break our bones, but words can cause PTSD! Coach Naja discusses ways to diffuse what “she said” and how to squash crippling thoughts before they cause a mental infestation. Many times a biomom can spew […]

I Don’t Do Drama Mamas

One of my absolute favorite topics to help clients tackle is high conflict people, mainly HCBMs. What I’ve found is they’re not big, scary monsters. They’re just pitiful beings that live their lives based on survival. While it’s nice to show compassion, these types of people can traumatize you and suck you into their dark […]

Expert Workshop: @dopemombrand shares her ah-ha moment with biomom

Sherelle Avery, founder of @dopemombrand discusses her journey from being a stepmom with 2 HCBMs to reaching a place of peace. Sherelle says, “I’ve learned so much over the years, so many ups and downs. I’m the step-parent who had to learn by trial and error. The step-parent who found the invisible boundaries and learned […]

VIPod 015: How To Help Your Partner Battle Alienation

Parental alienation is something that most blended families will experience at some point. It can extremely intentional or passive. Either way, when a parent tries to negatively influence a child’s relationship with their other parent (or the parent’s partner and kids), it can not only be detrimental to the parent/child relationship, but the child is […]

Expert Workshop: The ABCs of dealing with Older Stepkids

Brittany Chatman is the owner of Chat With Bee, a popular lifestyle and social community. She’s an Air Force (Ret.) wife, (step)mom of three, a sister, a daughter, a career woman, blogger and freelance marketing creator, and a whole host of other things. After all, that’s what being a superwoman is about — right? As […]

VIPod 014: When Stepmom Wrestles With a Pig

Below is the transcription of this month’s VIPod. Hello Hello VIPs This is Coach Naja your hostess with the mostess. Okay, that totally didn’t come out how I plan so today I want to talk about the pig. You heard me right today VIPs like going we’re talking about pigs D iD iD iD […]

Expert Workshop: Music Therapist Bree Gordon

This month’s Expert is Bree Gordon. She’s a Stepmom and she’s a Music Therapist. Her work is so transformative because she helps us use music as a healing tool. in this workshop, she even teaches us how to write our own song. Naja stopped by Bree’s podcast. Listen here. About Bree: Bree earned her Bachelor’s […]

013: Five Ways To Know When It’s Time To Walk Away From Your Relationship

Back on Episode 26 of my public podcast, I Know I’m CRAZY with Naja Hall, April easily became a stepmom fan favorite and she’s back to give IKIC listeners some advice as only she can! This time April is dishing on her relationship with someone’s baby daddy and she gives other stepmoms keen advice […]

Expert Interview: Cilla From The Stepmums Club stops by

Priscilla Appeaning, founder of The Stepmums Club sat down for a candid chat with VIPStepmom. Cilla is responsible for the viral video produced by BBC that forged a tense conversation between biomums and stepmums. In a spirited conversation, Cilla and Naja dug deep into high-conflict coparents, getting ignored by baby mamas, and the cycle of […]

Expert Workshop: Kate Chapman talks divorce aftermath

When I was a baby blogger, Kate Chapman was one of the seasoned experts that sewed into my work. She took the time to befriend me, and she even contributed to my mission. Over the years, Kate’s impact on the blended family community still holds true and she stopped by to chat grief, stepparenting, and […]

VIPod #12: Girl, You DON’T have to marry him!!!

I was chatting with one of my mentors this morning @davidegoodin and he said, “Ya know young lady, the problem is a lot of people are married to one another that shouldn’t be.” That was the realest sh*t ever because it’s so painfully true. A lot of stepmoms have found themselves in love with a […]

25 Commandments for Divorced Dads

UPDATE: We’ve created an eBook and a cute little video to accompany this topic. Some members have reported that their men appreciate when the For Your Man content is packaged more concisely. xoxo Naja Dear Dads, Please know that we admire, love, and adore you which is why we agreed to commit to you for […]

Cognitive Distortions are Killing Stepmoms

Resource Guide to Understanding Cognitive Distortions Take Naja’s Cognitive Distortions Course Listen to Cognitive Distortions podcast (or watch it HERE) The types of Cognitive Distortions Cognitive Distortions: When Your Brain Lies to You (+ PDF Worksheets) The Relationship between Depression Severity and Cognitive Errors Cracking the NUTS and Eliminating the ANTS Worksheet Problematic Thinking Habits […]

Expert Workshop: Naja demonstrates a real life Conflict

As a Master Stepfamily Coach, my days are filled with sorting through the lamentations of individuals and stepfamilies in transition. As a stepmom, I have a personal and a professional vantage point that allows me to help my clients navigate their emotions because I’ve experienced some of the exact feelings. In this tutorial, I decided to […]

Expert Workshop: Stepmom Infertility with Kristen Skiles

Naja Hall, founder of VIPStepmom.com recently sat down with Kristen Skiles of Stepmomming.com to chat on childless stepmoms, infertility, and how to deal with the complex feelings that come along with such a circumstance. Infertility affects women and men equally (15 million people in the U.S. annually). … For women between 26 to 34 years, 13% […]

VIPod 010: Kristen Skiles of @stepmomming shares her Stepmom Shock Moments

Kristen Skiles of the popular blog stepmomming.com, stopped by to share some of the most surprising things she experienced as a stepmom. Her story is quite unorthodox because she and her CoMama started a business together and they were even roomies at one point. She’s since learned some serious lessons on boundaries and a few […]

Expert Workshop: Naja’s Mom discusses her stepmom, marriage, and gives womanly advice

https://youtu.be/hKhQarBkuxE Nancy, my mom chats on 43 years of marriage. Mom dishes advice on how she stayed married to my dad. At one point I ask her if she understands my job, is she proud of me and has she forgiven her father for abandoning my Grandma. This is probably the most in-depth conversation I’ve […]

Masterclass for Burned Out Stepmoms

I recently held a live Masterclass for For Burned Out Stepmoms and of course my VIPs get easy access to the replay! If you attended, then you know this was a transformational session. We got to connect, learn, and grow. Just a heads up, this is a very intense session and there is a lot […]

VIPod 09: What happens if your man becomes incapacitated?

The death of 41-year old basketball star, Kobe Bryant, leads Naja to share an up-close and personal story of her own. She shares the experience of a close friend whose husband became incapacitated BUT his children’s mothers showed no compassion. This woman’s life became a nightmare. Naja gives 3 very important points to bring up […]

Expert Workshop: How To Know When Your Relationship Is Over

https://youtu.be/93MmhUSU5KI In this month’s expert workshop, Naja sat down with psychologist @Dr. Jennelle to discuss a topic very familiar to women in our community. At some point in our relationships, stepmoms think about calling it quits because this role can be too much. When surveyed, over 64% of VIPStepmoms replied that if they could have […]

VIPod 08: What happens when you feel “sorry” for your stepkids

When our stepkids seem to suffer from their parents’ actions, it’s natural to feel sad for them. In this episode, Naja digs deep into the psychodynamic that occurs when a stepmom struggles because of her empathy for her stepkids. Be prepared to hear some hard truths and a shocking breakdown of the root of why […]

Workshop: Custodial Stepmoms Need Love Too

In this month’s Expert Workshop, I chat with Coach Latoya C. She has been married for 14 years and her custodial stepmothehood experience has taught her many lessons on humility, patience, and love. Although her two stepchildren are older, she can very much observe the aftermath of coexisting with a HCBM. Also, she JUST became […]

VIPod 07: How to get rid of the stepmom holiday blues

The holiday season is usually an exciting time for many Americans. While most are preparing to spend quality time with their loved ones, there is one particular group that is already starting to feel the pangs of frustration, isolation, and depression. There are roughly 14 million stepmothers in this country and 62% express emotional distress […]

VIPod 06: Meditation of Abundance by Kathy Freston

OMG VIPs! My beautiful friend Karen shared this with me and I wanted to pass it on to women that are committed to living abundantly. I suggest listening to this each morning before you start your day and at night before bed. I am in a season where I need abundance so I’ve been manifesting […]

Expert Workshop: When your man is torn between two households

For this month’s Expert Workshop, I chatted with Bill Gobin, a custodial dad that went to family court 47 times AND WON! As a fellow coach, Bill provides the perspective of a Dad that successfully navigated two HCBMs. So many stepmoms suffer because their men do not know how to stand up to BM and/or […]

05: What EVERY Man wants the Stepmom He Loves To Know

Part of my job as a key support system for Stepmoms is to ALSO support the men you love. Our new section, For Your Man is getting much love because it is content that is curated for your man. I’m excited to share this month’s VIPod because it’s our 1st one that speaks to HIS […]

I was raised by a narcissistic dad

I’ve been digging deep into the mindset of narcissists. I want to humanize them in order to help you to understand them. Ultimately, the goal is to teach how to be less traumatized by their actions. Here is a personal account that Vermeer, a friend of VIPStepmom put together about their […]

Naja teaches an engaged Stepmom how to be FIRM

Naja sits with Kennisha (biomom of 3), an engaged SM who is trying to learn tools to maintain her sanity and her relationship while dealing with a HCBM. She and her partner got together while he was divorcing his childhood sweetheart ex. The relationship was toxic and resulted in 3 kids. Kennisha and her fiance […]

VIPod 04: Biomom refuses to acknowledge my existence

Does your stepkid’s mom refuse to recognize the contribution you make to her kid’s life? Naja chats about the lack of acknowledgment many stepmoms DO NOT get from biomom and how to move past the frustration and #beGreater If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you want […]

4 Key Causes Of Stepmama Drama

I’ve built an entire coaching practice around Comama Drama. When I began my studies, the question I aimed to answer was: “Why are Mothers and Stepmothers natural enemies?” Over time, much of my focus has shifted to understanding high conflict mothers and teaching stepmothers how to be happy and unbothered despite the HCBM in their […]

VIPod 03: *New ways to bond with difficult stepkids

I chatted with The Teenager Whisperer, Kirsten Cobabe for my public podcast, “I know I’m crazy.” After we wrapped up the public portion, she and I broke away to discuss stepmom specific tactics. She has a very unorthodox way of dealing with teenagers and I think this will help many of us understand the positions […]

Workshop: Stick & Stones May Break You Bones, but Social Media Can Really Hurt You

https://youtu.be/5fLtXz9w90Q I chatted with Family Law Attorney Kimberly Cook about the implications of social media and how it can harm a court case. Be careful what you put out there because it can be used against you and your family. ABOUT OUR GUEST: Kimberly Cook is a Partner at Schiller DuCanto & Fleck, LLP, the […]

How To Tell If He Will Ever Marry You

Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others This ebook is based is one of the most genius things I’ve ever come across. Basically, a research team, led by John T. Molloy conducted 3,000 interviews. They interviewed couples coming out of marriage license bureaus! They basically bum-rushed these people for information. I recall how excited, […]

Why I Divorced After 23 Years of Marriage

I was married for 23 years. Nothing particularly new happened in 23rd year except the culmination of personal unhappiness and lack of communication left unaddressed for years. The result was divorce in the 23rd year. One could say the cause of our divorce was me being unfaithful to my wife. That’s an easy and convenient […]

3 common mistakes of a new Stepparent. Oops!

Guest submission When I began my journey as a stepmother, I was 26, about 7 months pregnant with twins, completing a Master’s Program, and at a job I hated. I was often back and forth to Child Support Court with my first biological son’s father. In that space, I was not emotionally ready to begin […]

VIP Advice: My man is still helping his babymama

Have you ever felt that your man was showing WAY too much grace to his unrelenting coparent? Is he weak? Does he still want her? Is he just stupid? Well, our fellow VIP, Kiya is dealing with this right now. To get the full backstory, click HERE. I recorded a quick video response for her […]

Surprise Stepmom! You’ve got custody!

Naja Hall chats with Lisa Williams, a coach and custodial stepmom. She became an unexpected full-time stepmother to a recently diagnosed autistic four-year-old, with one weeks notice. She was forty-two years old! The child was four. The bio mother was very high-conflict. Lisa had already raised three kids. She thought her life was over. Lisa […]

VIPod Ep 02: Smells Like Teen Spirit: How To Deal With Teen Stepchildren

https://youtu.be/hggMQ_Hm8lU This is probably going to be my longest podcast ever, but I had to get a whole lotta ish off my chest! I’m pretty sure you can identify with a lot of what I’m saying in this pod. It walks you through my process of facing drama and then dealing with it. If […]

When Stepmom NEEDS to Step Off: How to Deal With Overbearing Stepmoms

Dear Naja, I, myself, am a stepmom…. but I also have a birth child that I share with my ex and his wife. So in this case, my question is as a birth mom not sure how to deal with a stepmom. My issue is that this stepmom is SERIOUSLY overbearing and does not know […]

How To Kick BioMom Outta Your Relationship

https://youtu.be/8_KWHCDPwD4 Stepmom! Hey girl hey! Here’s a bit of advice that I almost learned TOO LATE! I know it sucks to see your partner deal with conflict from his coparent. As his Wonder Woman, it is natural to want to swoop in and save the day. 🛑Stop🛑 I want you to switch gears and work […]

Stepmoms, Be Sure To Read the FINE Print

As a Stepmom, you really don’t know what you are getting into until you are in it! If only there was insight or a potential roadmap for your Stepmotherhood journey. Well there is, it’s your partners’ divorce decree and custody agreement. And you should read it! Why you are asking yourself? I should do What? […]

7 Types of Women That Should Never Become Stepmothers

Stepmothering is probably one of the toughest roles I’ve held to date. It’s not even so much the actual ‘mothering’ part. I enjoy being present in the lives of my stepchildren. I’m thankful to have the privilege of watching them grow up. I have been blessed with three really cool humans, so I am one […]

Interview: An in-depth look at High Conflict Bio Dads

I got special permission to share this session with you. I sat down with a woman with a HCBD. Here’s a bit of insight, the HCBD’s new partner (and his family) believe he the victim and they are unknowingly furthering his mission to alienate and inflict pain on his ex. Sound familiar? I felt this […]

My teenager wants an Instagram account, Here’s my response

I recently allowed my daughter, Kelcie to take over my Facebook page. As the precocious person that she’s been since birth, Kelcie presented her carefully curated argument as to why she should have an Instagram account. As a High School Assistant Principal, I have a uniquie vantage point of understanding the effects of social media […]

This couple left divorce court and went to lunch

Hannah and Fard have ended their time as life partners and they’ve penned an excerpt that has the internet abuzz. In this day in age, especially considering the work I do, seeing new divorcees breaking bread is RARE. Here are 5 lessons learned in hindsight from Hannah and Fard. We wish their family love and […]

Are You Scared Shitl*ss over Your Stepkid’s Upcoming Summer Visit?

https://youtu.be/qQZimLguAVE Many of us are sending kids away or welcoming them into their ‘non-custodial’ homes for the much anticipated Summer Vacation! If you’re a mom that is sending her bios to be with their Dad, girlfriend, enjoy your free time and make the most of it. As I’ve prepared to usher my Stepkids into their […]

VIPod: Ep 1 Would You Still Say YES?

I’m in VIPStepmom launch celebration mode so here is a bonus version of our VIPStepmom podcast! I asked all the ladies, if you knew then, what you know now….would you still say YES? PLEASE follow us on Instagram and Facebook. We post member updates and new releases there. The answers were um…a little heartbreaking. Listen […]

10 Commandments for StepMoms

Here are YOUR rules for stepmommin’! Print them, make them your screensaver! Commit them to memory. Everything I share is with the intention that your journey will be a beautiful one. I find that so many of us are consumed by the antics of others because we are imbalanced. Have you ever seen someone blow […]

StepMom Affirmations: Listen When You’re Feeling Imbalanced

I shared this on my podcast a while back and I’ve received some amazing messages! One of our #stepsistas told me she listens to my affirmations before her stepkids visit EOW! I am bookmarking it here, so you can grab it when you need a refresher! Don’t forget to comment in the forum! I’m looking […]

PODCAST 011: WTF is Borderline Personality Disorder?

I recently chatted with my friend Brian Barnett. He is not only an expert on Borderline Personality Disorder, he’s actually rid himself of the terrible disorder that plagues 4% of Americans. This podcast takes an in-depth look at BPD and the people that it affects. Brian is proof that there is hope beyond borderline. FROM […]

How your man can help EASE your stepmom STRESS

A loving dad named Brandon reached out to me because he wants to learn how to ease his girlfriend’s stepmom stress. He has been trying to finish his divorce however, his high conflict ex has other plans. His lady feels anxiety about their situation and it is affecting his relationship. I decided to tap my […]

I interviewed Mashonda about coparenting with Alicia Keys

Mashonda, ex-wife of music producer Swizz Beats discusses healing from their messy divorce, forgiving Alicia Keys and putting her son first. In her new book, Blend, she offers tips for mothers that need healing from breakup and divorce. She also details her unique childhood experience in her own blended family. https://youtu.be/kl9RtLz7hns Sign up for a […]

Study a person’s ingredients before you feed them to your soul

There is no such rule that you must accept abuse or disrespect because you now occupy a new role! If you are feeling the heat from your partner’s ex or your stepkids then check out this video! While you may never get them to love you, you can take back your personal peace by unapologetically […]

How to Master Long Distance Coparenting

I sat down with Skyra Thomas, founder of FliptheZip.com, a community that connects people looking to relocate. We discussed a touchy topic that many stepfamilies will face at some point. Skyra has a positive long distance co-parenting relationship with her son’s father and she grew up traveling between both her parent’s households in different cities. […]

Setting Limits with Crazy Bitches

kPaul Elam is quite colorful but he is VERY experienced on personality disordered women. If you are not easily offended, you’ll find some helpful nuggets in his chat about ‘Crazy Bitches”. https://youtu.be/iVznYqY8EEg Sign up for a VIPStepmom Membership TODAY! Check out our Facebook Reviews Follow us on the Gram! Listen to the Podcast If […]

How to EXPOSE the narcissist in Court

How to EXPOSE the narcissist in Court and/or to Psychologist! This video teaches how to prove that a coparent is a narcissist. Visit www.micheleleenieves.com https://youtu.be/N-LFevkioV4 Sign up for a VIPStepmom Membership TODAY! Check out our Facebook Reviews Follow us on the Gram! Listen to the Podcast If you are not yet a member, click HERE […]

6 Ways to Spot a Narcissistic Mother

Living alongside a narcissist is hard work. Co-parenting with a narcissistic is tough. This type of mother seeks sympathy from any audience by positioning herself as the self-sacrificial patron saint of motherhood. While it’s expected that a mom would do anything for her family, this one has an innate need to be admired and acknowledged. […]

Podcast 007: How to heal from physical and emotional abuse

In this episode of I Know I’m Crazy with Naja Hall, I chat with Psychotherapist and abuse survivor, Anita Bentata. She hails from Australia and she shares her own experiences with abuse and how she has turned her life experiences into a life-changing platform. ABOUT OUR GUEST ANITA BENTATA: Anita Bentata transforms the uncomfortable into living […]

Podcast 006 Toxic motherhood is a VERY real thing!

Listen on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher or Google Play In this episode of I Know I’m Crazy with Naja Hall, I chat with Jennifer Arnise. Our conversation was uncomfortably too real at times because we are discussing a tough topic, Toxic Mothers! Jen gives personal and professional insights on how to deal with a toxic mom. […]

Blended and Black Founder, Naja Hall is a COVERGIRL! Stepmom Magazine

Great news Fam! Our founder, Naja Hall landed her very 1st magazine cover with Stepmom Magazine! Check out her article HERE. I’ve been reading Stepmom Magazine since before I officially became a Stepmom, so it’s definitely a full-circle moment to be featured by the women whom I go to for help. This is a really, […]

003 PODCAST: You’re probably ADDICTED to DRAMA with

Listen on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher or Google Play In this episode of I Know I’m Crazy with Naja Hall, I chat with Addiction Treatment Specialist, Chris Wilkins. I was instantly drawn to his work because many of us are consumed by conflict and he is the perfect person to teach us about letting go […]

How I Saved My Marriage

Originally published by Richard Paul Evans My oldest daughter, Jenna, recently said to me, “My greatest fear as a child was that you and mom would get divorced. Then, when I was twelve, I decided that you fought so much that maybe it would be better if you did.” Then she added with a smile. […]

50 Signs You’re in Love With a Narcissist

Ultimately you were never loved you were used, abused and manipulated. You loved a facade that didn’t exist, you became addicted … you should run away before it’s too late.

How to Co-Parent After Divorce and Infidelity

How do we forgive the unforgivable? How do we renew a relationship that has been broken beyond repair? You may have heard that forgiveness is not for the offender, but for the offended, and to some degree this is true. It is certainly good for both, but we need to understand that accountability and acceptance […]

How To Tell Your Stepchildren You’re Pregnant!

When my husband and I added the twins to our blended family of four boys, the timing wasn’t the best. My husband and I hadn’t been public about our relationship for too long. His three children didn’t have much time to grasp the idea of a new person in their father’s life because his ex-wife […]

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