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Expert Workshop: Beth McDonough talks Inclusivity, Speaking up, and Coming Out!

Naja chats with her internet Bestie, Beth about queerness, stepmotherhood, and her journey of self-rediscovery. Beth McDonough is a Certified […]

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VIPOD: Jenna Korf on death of a stepchild, high conflict parenting, and what’s next

This was initially an episode of my public podcast I Know I’m Crazy. Unfortunately, our intervieee has a very manic […]

How to handle a partner that can’t set boundaries

This month’s Expert Workshop host is Coach Brittany Simo. She is chatting about boundaries and the steps to take when […]

VIP Expert Workshop: Defining the relationship with Biomom

This month’s guest expert is Kisha Batsuli of Blendedontherock.com. Kisha’s 2017 wedding dance went viral because she invited her new […]

When your partner’s stuff becomes TOO much

We tend to take on our partner’s “stuff” because we love them and we want to see them happy. As […]

Coach Naja breaks down complicated family dynamics

https://youtu.be/sJl9RT1cZYE I had the opportunity to present at Bree Gordon’s Connection Bootcamp and she has been generous enough to allow […]

Vipod: Naja explains EXACTLY how to be an unbothered stepmom

Naja frequently mentions being an unbothered stepmom. In this episode, she breakdown how to go from frazzled to unbothered. The […]

Expert Workshop: When stepkids ignore you

As stepmothers, we pride ourselves on making our homes our sanctuaries. With so many outside factors that affect our happiness, […]

VIPod 020: When HCBM is actually mentally ill

https://youtu.be/0amX3eQQerM Coach Naja and Christina Nelson, host of The Radical Stepmoms Podcast chat about dealing with a diagnosed HCBM. […]

New Course Announcement! Team Toxic Tammy -When BM+MIL Team Up

When toxic bio mom and your mother in law link up, it can feel frustrating. An interesting phenomenon occurs when […]

Expert Workshop: Is your stepchild manipulative or just SCARED?

Feelings of rejection from our stepkids can lead to total disengagement and apathy. The first few years of a blended […]

VIPod 019: When The Revolving Door Hits You

VIPJessica is experiencing hardship because her Husband’s ex has broken up with another boyfriend and she is projecting her wrath […]

018: Belinda Munro talks juggling her high profile career, motherhood, & stepmotherhood

Belinda Munro stopped by to catch up with Naja and reminisce on their days as single Harlem girls. She […]

Stepfamily Coach Naja Hall shares her personal experiences

Coach Naja answers some very specific questions about her stepmom journey. A podcast listener got curious about your fave expert […]

VIPod 017: Are High Conflict Stepmoms REALLY real??!!

In a land far away, HCSMs are trodding around wreaking havoc on their ready-made families. In this VIPod episode, Naja […]

VIPod 016: What to do when “drama” disrupts your good energy

Coach Naja delves into the cosmos and uncovers why certain stepmoms cannot overcome distractions from blended family drama. Distractions can […]

Expert Workshop: When words become weapons

So often, we find ourselves caught up in the words and ramblings from the “other household”. Sticks and stones can […]

I Don’t Do Drama Mamas

One of my absolute favorite topics to help clients tackle is high conflict people, mainly HCBMs. What I’ve found is […]

Expert Workshop: @dopemombrand shares her ah-ha moment with biomom

Sherelle Avery, founder of @dopemombrand discusses her journey from being a stepmom with 2 HCBMs to reaching a place of […]

VIPod 015: How To Help Your Partner Battle Alienation

Parental alienation is something that most blended families will experience at some point. It can extremely intentional or passive. Either […]

Expert Workshop: The ABCs of dealing with Older Stepkids

Brittany Chatman is the owner of Chat With Bee, a popular lifestyle and social community. She’s an Air Force (Ret.) […]

VIPod 014: When Stepmom Wrestles With a Pig

Below is the transcription of this month’s VIPod. Hello Hello VIPs This is Coach Naja your hostess with the […]

Expert Workshop: Music Therapist Bree Gordon

This month’s Expert is Bree Gordon. She’s a Stepmom and she’s a Music Therapist. Her work is so transformative because […]

013: Five Ways To Know When It’s Time To Walk Away From Your Relationship

Back on Episode 26 of my public podcast, I Know I’m CRAZY with Naja Hall, April easily became a […]

Expert Interview: Cilla From The Stepmums Club stops by

Priscilla Appeaning, founder of The Stepmums Club sat down for a candid chat with VIPStepmom. Cilla is responsible for the […]

Expert Workshop: Kate Chapman talks divorce aftermath

When I was a baby blogger, Kate Chapman was one of the seasoned experts that sewed into my work. She […]

VIPod #12: Girl, You DON’T have to marry him!!!

I was chatting with one of my mentors this morning @davidegoodin and he said, “Ya know young lady, the problem […]

25 Commandments for Divorced Dads

UPDATE: We’ve created an eBook and a cute little video to accompany this topic. Some members have reported that their […]

Cognitive Distortions are Killing Stepmoms

Resource Guide to Understanding Cognitive Distortions Take Naja’s Cognitive Distortions Course Listen to Cognitive Distortions podcast (or watch it HERE) […]

Expert Workshop: Naja demonstrates a real life Conflict

As a Master Stepfamily Coach, my days are filled with sorting through the lamentations of individuals and stepfamilies in transition. […]

Expert Workshop: Stepmom Infertility with Kristen Skiles

Naja Hall, founder of VIPStepmom.com recently sat down with Kristen Skiles of Stepmomming.com to chat on childless stepmoms, infertility, and […]

VIPod 010: Kristen Skiles of @stepmomming shares her Stepmom Shock Moments

Kristen Skiles of the popular blog stepmomming.com, stopped by to share some of the most surprising things she experienced as […]

Expert Workshop: Naja’s Mom discusses her stepmom, marriage, and gives womanly advice

https://youtu.be/hKhQarBkuxE Nancy, my mom chats on 43 years of marriage. Mom dishes advice on how she stayed married to my […]

Masterclass for Burned Out Stepmoms

I recently held a live Masterclass for For Burned Out Stepmoms and of course my VIPs get easy access […]

VIPod 09: What happens if your man becomes incapacitated?

The death of 41-year old basketball star, Kobe Bryant, leads Naja to share an up-close and personal story of her […]

Expert Workshop: How To Know When Your Relationship Is Over

https://youtu.be/93MmhUSU5KI In this month’s expert workshop, Naja sat down with psychologist @Dr. Jennelle to discuss a topic very familiar to […]

VIPod 08: What happens when you feel “sorry” for your stepkids

When our stepkids seem to suffer from their parents’ actions, it’s natural to feel sad for them. In this episode, […]

Workshop: Custodial Stepmoms Need Love Too

In this month’s Expert Workshop, I chat with Coach Latoya C. She has been married for 14 years and her […]

VIPod 07: How to get rid of the stepmom holiday blues

The holiday season is usually an exciting time for many Americans. While most are preparing to spend quality time with […]

VIPod 06: Meditation of Abundance by Kathy Freston

OMG VIPs! My beautiful friend Karen shared this with me and I wanted to pass it on to women that […]

Expert Workshop: When your man is torn between two households

For this month’s Expert Workshop, I chatted with Bill Gobin, a custodial dad that went to family court 47 times […]

05: What EVERY Man wants the Stepmom He Loves To Know

Part of my job as a key support system for Stepmoms is to ALSO support the men you love. Our […]

I was raised by a narcissistic dad

I’ve been digging deep into the mindset of narcissists. I want to humanize them in order […]

Naja teaches an engaged Stepmom how to be FIRM

Naja sits with Kennisha (biomom of 3), an engaged SM who is trying to learn tools to maintain her sanity […]

VIPod 04: Biomom refuses to acknowledge my existence

Does your stepkid’s mom refuse to recognize the contribution you make to her kid’s life? Naja chats about the lack […]

4 Key Causes Of Stepmama Drama

I’ve built an entire coaching practice around Comama Drama. When I began my studies, the question I aimed to answer […]

VIPod 03: *New ways to bond with difficult stepkids

I chatted with The Teenager Whisperer, Kirsten Cobabe for my public podcast, “I know I’m crazy.” After we wrapped up […]

Workshop: Stick & Stones May Break You Bones, but Social Media Can Really Hurt You

https://youtu.be/5fLtXz9w90Q I chatted with Family Law Attorney Kimberly Cook about the implications of social media and how it can harm […]

How To Tell If He Will Ever Marry You

Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others This ebook is based is one of the most genius things I’ve […]

Why I Divorced After 23 Years of Marriage

I was married for 23 years. Nothing particularly new happened in 23rd year except the culmination of personal unhappiness and […]

3 common mistakes of a new Stepparent. Oops!

Guest submission When I began my journey as a stepmother, I was 26, about 7 months pregnant with twins, completing […]

VIP Advice: My man is still helping his babymama

Have you ever felt that your man was showing WAY too much grace to his unrelenting coparent? Is he weak? […]

Surprise Stepmom! You’ve got custody!

Naja Hall chats with Lisa Williams, a coach and custodial stepmom. She became an unexpected full-time stepmother to a recently […]

VIPod Ep 02: Smells Like Teen Spirit: How To Deal With Teen Stepchildren

https://youtu.be/hggMQ_Hm8lU This is probably going to be my longest podcast ever, but I had to get a whole lotta ish […]

When Stepmom NEEDS to Step Off: How to Deal With Overbearing Stepmoms

Dear Naja, I, myself, am a stepmom…. but I also have a birth child that I share with my ex […]

How To Kick BioMom Outta Your Relationship

https://youtu.be/8_KWHCDPwD4 Stepmom! Hey girl hey! Here’s a bit of advice that I almost learned TOO LATE! I know it sucks […]

Stepmoms, Be Sure To Read the FINE Print

As a Stepmom, you really don’t know what you are getting into until you are in it! If only there […]

7 Types of Women That Should Never Become Stepmothers

Stepmothering is probably one of the toughest roles I’ve held to date. It’s not even so much the actual ‘mothering’ […]

Interview: An in-depth look at High Conflict Bio Dads

I got special permission to share this session with you. I sat down with a woman with a HCBD. Here’s […]

My teenager wants an Instagram account, Here’s my response

I recently allowed my daughter, Kelcie to take over my Facebook page. As the precocious person that she’s been since […]

This couple left divorce court and went to lunch

Hannah and Fard have ended their time as life partners and they’ve penned an excerpt that has the internet abuzz. […]

Are You Scared Shitl*ss over Your Stepkid’s Upcoming Summer Visit?

https://youtu.be/qQZimLguAVE Many of us are sending kids away or welcoming them into their ‘non-custodial’ homes for the much anticipated Summer […]

VIPod: Ep 1 Would You Still Say YES?

I’m in VIPStepmom launch celebration mode so here is a bonus version of our VIPStepmom podcast! I asked all the […]

10 Commandments for StepMoms

Here are YOUR rules for stepmommin’! Print them, make them your screensaver! Commit them to memory. Everything I share is […]

StepMom Affirmations: Listen When You’re Feeling Imbalanced

I shared this on my podcast a while back and I’ve received some amazing messages! One of our #stepsistas told […]

PODCAST 011: WTF is Borderline Personality Disorder?

I recently chatted with my friend Brian Barnett. He is not only an expert on Borderline Personality Disorder, he’s actually […]

How your man can help EASE your stepmom STRESS

A loving dad named Brandon reached out to me because he wants to learn how to ease his girlfriend’s stepmom […]

I interviewed Mashonda about coparenting with Alicia Keys

Mashonda, ex-wife of music producer Swizz Beats discusses healing from their messy divorce, forgiving Alicia Keys and putting her son […]

Study a person’s ingredients before you feed them to your soul

There is no such rule that you must accept abuse or disrespect because you now occupy a new role! If […]

How to Master Long Distance Coparenting

I sat down with Skyra Thomas, founder of FliptheZip.com, a community that connects people looking to relocate. We discussed a […]

Setting Limits with Crazy Bitches

kPaul Elam is quite colorful but he is VERY experienced on personality disordered women. If you are not easily offended, […]

How to EXPOSE the narcissist in Court

How to EXPOSE the narcissist in Court and/or to Psychologist! This video teaches how to prove that a coparent is […]

6 Ways to Spot a Narcissistic Mother

Living alongside a narcissist is hard work. Co-parenting with a narcissistic is tough. This type of mother seeks sympathy from […]

Podcast 007: How to heal from physical and emotional abuse

In this episode of I Know I’m Crazy with Naja Hall, I chat with Psychotherapist and abuse survivor, Anita Bentata. […]

Podcast 006 Toxic motherhood is a VERY real thing!

Listen on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher or Google Play In this episode of I Know I’m Crazy with Naja Hall, I chat […]

Blended and Black Founder, Naja Hall is a COVERGIRL! Stepmom Magazine

Great news Fam! Our founder, Naja Hall landed her very 1st magazine cover with Stepmom Magazine! Check out her article […]

003 PODCAST: You’re probably ADDICTED to DRAMA with

Listen on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher or Google Play In this episode of I Know I’m Crazy with Naja Hall, […]

How I Saved My Marriage

Originally published by Richard Paul Evans My oldest daughter, Jenna, recently said to me, “My greatest fear as a child […]

50 Signs You’re in Love With a Narcissist

Ultimately you were never loved you were used, abused and manipulated. You loved a facade that didn’t exist, you became addicted … you should run away before it’s too late.

How to Co-Parent After Divorce and Infidelity

How do we forgive the unforgivable? How do we renew a relationship that has been broken beyond repair? You may […]

How To Tell Your Stepchildren You’re Pregnant!

When my husband and I added the twins to our blended family of four boys, the timing wasn’t the best. […]

Divorce: What It Feels Like To Mourn My Father In Life and In Death

I’m a man’s man. I love sports, so much so that I’ve made a career of talking about sports. I’ve […]

Client Session: My 10-Year Old Stepdaughter is Ruining My Marriage

My Client has watched helplessly as her 10-year old custodial stepdaughter has transformed from loving to tough-to-love in less than […]

How I Survived Being Raised By a Narcissistic Mother

This is the story of my childhood and how I survived. Growing up with my mom was interesting, to put […]

I’m Over the Drama: A Happy Mom’s note

I get A LOT of inspiration from the Blended & Black Facebook group. Yesterday someone posted this picture on the […]

When Your Spouse Has a Mental Illness

Alma’s speech became stilted, and her eyes brimmed with tears as she shared the moment she knew her marriage was […]

Namaste and F*ck You: When Your Man Abandons His Children

Namaste simply means “The divine in me bows to the divine in you.” “Namaste creates a loop of bliss to […]

Disrespectful Stepkids and How to Handle Them

Are you dealing with disrespectful stepkids? Why would they be disrespectful? Like it or not, phrases like, “You’re not my […]

How to Handle Disrespectful Stepkids

Are you dealing with disrespectful stepkids? Why would they be disrespectful? Like it or not, phrases like, “You’re not my […]

Why You Should Get On Your Ex Wife’s Good Side

HEAR ME OUT BEFORE I GET AN #EyeRoll! Today, let’s TRY a little tenderness! If you’re in a high conflict […]

The Breakup Breakdown: How to GRACEFULLY Go From TAKEN To Single

https://youtu.be/MBPR4ybsFms When I came across this clip, I immediately thought of every woman I know! I thought about the countless […]

Angry Wife Blasts Cheating Husband’s Mistress on Facebook

By Naja Hall I normally rest up on Saturday mornings, but this tea is far too juicy not to share! […]

Should You Stay Facebook Friends With Your Ex’s Family?

Back in the good old days when all we had were pagers — scratch that, let’s go even further. Back […]

Letter to My Daughter’s Stepmum: A Message to Ex-Husband’s New Wife

In a blog post that soon went viral, Candice Curry, 39, wrote ‘you were supposed to be hideous, remember? But […]

When Ex-Wives Become Alienators

After reading the list, don’t get discouraged when you notice that some of your own behaviors have been alienating your […]

Drama & Dating a Divorced Parent

By Lisa Cohn indy Copeland of Keene, NH, had just begun dating Wayne, a divorced dad, when she received a […]

My Stepson Lives With Us But Refuses To Talk To Me

I’m always gushing about how much I love the Blended and Black Facebook Support Group. Today a concerned Stepmom posted […]

How to Co-Parent With Your Child’s Stepmother

You may think, at first pass, that co-parenting with your child’s stepmother is unreasonable. If you think about it, we […]