Today I talked with Blended and Black member, Antoinette. Together she and her Husband have blended clan of 8 children! Yup 8 kids! Her Husband has 4 from a previous marriage. Antoinette has 3. And together they have 1.
Antoinette shares anecdotes about how to support a Spouse that share’s kids with a high-conflict ex. She also tells us about the time her Husband’s ex tried to violently attack her and why she opted not to work on a relationship with her Bonus kid’s mom.
While we’d all like to have stories with fairy tale endings, sometimes that is impossible. The family unit is a system and in order for all to be functional, the system by be cohesive and aligned. In cases where a member is high conflict, it is best to disengage and allow their journey to proceed parallel to yours.