https://youtu.be/Bgkf7DgSCk4 Our very own Coach Bee is giving us the low down on custodial stepmotherhood, parenting amidst loss, and learning to work with deceased biomom’s family. Grab your pen and pad and take notes because Coach is taking us to school. If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you […]
Coach Naja and Coach Bee have a pseudo-celebration about the day a stepchild turns 18…but what does it really even mean? Is it some major milestone toward Stepmom heaven or is it just more of the same? https://youtu.be/_IDHycuh7rs If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you want to […]
Coach Ivana gets real and shares her own CURRENT and very personal journey. Most people don’t enter a marriage expecting divorce, but sadly, the D-Word is her next challenge. Check out her take on love, self-care, and how to move forward. Please follow her everywhere! Watch directly on Youtube HERE or below! https://www.tiktok.com/@selfcarved https://www.tiktok.com/@selfcarved https://www.youtube.com/@SelfCarved […]
Coach Naja has a realizarion. After 10 years of being adjacent to a HCBM and an overall unfulfilling stepmotherhood experience, one’s spirit can get infected and you all of a sudden realize that you don’t like who you’ve had to become. That STOPS TODAY!” In the PICK UP YOUR CROWN Series, we will be discovering […]
Coach Naja explores the benefits and drawbacks of learning how to center yourself when the blended family conflict gets to be too much. Mom and stepmom guilt can run rampant and it can really be tough on your psyche, your relationship, and your whole life. In this episode, we explore ways to give ourselves permission […]
https://youtu.be/kaLHuNf2eVM Coach Naja and Coach Anthony Johnson have a candid chat about the ins and outs of coparenting. After Anthony and his coparent ended their romantic relationship, he spent time learning how to take his family away from hardship to love. It wasn’t always easy for him, but today he helps other families, individuals, and […]
One of our fellow Stepsistas is having a bit of a conundrum. Her partner of 3 years can’t seem to shake his ex-wife. The ex wants her family back but this boyfriend that’s playing both sides has assured our sis that he only has eyes for her! Check out my candid advice here or listen […]
Naja Hall, Founder of VIPStepmom.com, chats with Scarlet Tandy about healing from trauma, conflict, and rising above drama. This lesson is packed full of gems and teachable moments so grab a pen and pad! https://youtu.be/bLN6MShMLQ4 If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you want to sign up […]
https://youtu.be/bQ2SRYqf1_I Coach Naja chats with Belgium-based content creator @TheStepmomGuy founder Kim Cleyman. Kim is a Dad that helps stepmoms through their journey from a male perspective. Kim shares his unique perspective on navigating tough waters. To connect with Kim on IG visit www.instagram.com/thestepmomguy If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! […]
We typically do not share Naja’s public podcast here, BUT this episode is one that Stepmoms and their partners will appreciate. Watch above or listen to the audio HERE. I Know I’m Crazy by Naja Hall podcast is available EVERYWHERE your fave podcasts are streamed. Naja chats with Coparenting Coach, @Kevin__Meeks. Kevin became a father […]
We have many Stepmoms that are biological mothers. And while you deal with an HCBM, many may also deal with undesirable coparenting situations. High conflict biodads are a very real thing and today Coach Naja is breaking down the similarities, the differences, and how to handle an HCBD. Save the link to listen later […]
Coach Naja discusses child the two types of parentification: instrumental and emotional. Instrumental parentification includes functional responsibilities and physical tasks given to a child that isn’t age-appropriate. Emotional parentification is when one or both parents turn to their child to fulfill their emotional needs. This is considered the more problematic and damaging type of parentification. […]
Hey VIP! The team and I created a new free eBook for new followers & subscribers BUT I wanted to make it available to you. Although you’ve already seen all of this content in the VIPStepmom member portal, I figured you would want to check out this compilation. If you love it, pass it to […]
Coach Naja chats with the VIP community for an unabashed Q& A session about some of the common challenges most stepmoms will face at some point during their journey. Below are the topics that were covered if you’d like to jump to your favorite part of the video. https://youtu.be/_gmZWlYPM3Q Topics 1. Should you find BM […]
Coach Bee Chatman chats about the differences between being a custodial stepmom to kids with living and deceased mothers. She also teaches us about our DiSc personality styles and we even do a little role-playing exercise. Coach Bee is the February 2020 covergirl of Stepmom Magazine too! Please check her out HERE. If you are […]
https://youtu.be/1HaNumuDtlM I made a post on the VIPStepmom IG page that sparked a great conversation and many shared sentiments. I wanted to go more into detail regarding the meaning behind the post and break down the act of “holding space”. If you missed the post, here is the copy. “Dear stepchild. I know you love […]
Sadly, for some of us, the only way to get justice for our stepfamilies is to have our day in court. In this episode, Coach Naja lays out a clear plan of action for before, during, and after your BIG DAY. When we all “can’t just get along” there are some best practices to keep […]
This month, I sat down with my friend, Kate Anthony. Her name may sound familiar as I’ve collaborated with her countless times and we literally have so much fun together. Check out our interview on my podcast I Know I’m Crazy Today Kate and I are discussing divorce- something that’s crossed the mind of just […]
Stepmoms that have to deal with high conflict biomoms often feel the need to vindicate their positions and expose the “truth” to their stepkids. The problem lies in the fact that our own personal experiences with these women do not often mirror our stepkid’s experiences with their mothers. In this month’s VIPod, Coach Naja discusses […]
https://youtu.be/7yTKK3YBe7o Coach Naja posed a question to the VIPStepmom online community and the responses were quite interesting. It seems that some of our partners are not as passe as we’d like to think and they have a hand in perpetuating the drama with their coparent. This Expert Workshop discusses ways that we can help our […]
When toxic bio mom and your mother in law link up, it can feel frustrating. An interesting phenomenon occurs when a woman can make your life a living hell, torment your step kids and your partner and paint you as the most wicked person in the world. There’s one lady that still sees hope in […]
Naja chats with tiktok sensation and psychotherapist Stephanie Ward about childhood trauma and how to become the parent you wish you had. Stephanie is a coparenting mother, and psychotherapist specializing in childhood trauma, parent wounds and narcissistic abuse. She helps to people to understand their earliest attachments and foundations of love. Aside from this PRIVATE […]
Coach Naja shares a fresh take on the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness is a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. It has become an overused internet word but there are few explanations that will help you dive in quickly […]
Naja chats with her internet Bestie, Beth about queerness, stepmotherhood, and her journey of self-rediscovery. Beth McDonough is a Certified Stepfamily Coach and one of three moms raising one feisty redheaded stepdaughter. She specializes in LGBTQ+ issues, being a childless stepmom, infertility, and strengthening stepfamilies through focusing on your relationship with your partner. She is […]
This month’s Expert Workshop host is Coach Brittany Simo. She is chatting about boundaries and the steps to take when your partner cannot set them. Coach Brittany gives a play-by-play on how to not only “deal” but how to help your partner asset themselves with their kids and coparent. Visit Coach Brittany online www.brittanysimo.com. https://youtu.be/C2FCCcx6eBE […]
This month’s guest expert is Kisha Batsuli of Blendedontherock.com. Kisha’s 2017 wedding dance went viral because she invited her new stepson’s mother to do a family dance at her wedding! During this workshop, Kisha shares how she managed that awesome feat and where her own stepmom/biomom relationship stands today. https://youtu.be/9SZOptbQLpM If you are not yet […]
We tend to take on our partner’s “stuff” because we love them and we want to see them happy. As stepmoms, the utter helpless feeling of servitude can cause resentment and make you feel outright tired! As Coach Naja (respectfully) compares a Caregiver’s role to your role as a Stepmom, you will begin to reframe […]
https://youtu.be/sJl9RT1cZYE I had the opportunity to present at Bree Gordon’s Connection Bootcamp and she has been generous enough to allow me to share my recorded session with my VIPs. This session was intense and includes audience interaction. Grab your pen and pad! There were many amazing presenters si if you would like to view the […]
Naja frequently mentions being an unbothered stepmom. In this episode, she breakdown how to go from frazzled to unbothered. The process does not have to be a long or arduous but it does take a serious commitment. Grab a pen and paper and prepare to have that heavy weight lifted off your shoulders. If […]
As stepmothers, we pride ourselves on making our homes our sanctuaries. With so many outside factors that affect our happiness, our relationships, and our balance, stepmoms can face some immeasurable points of stress. Coach Naja is breaking down best practices for stepmoms whose stepkids have gotten comfortable ignoring them! https://youtu.be/oz3o5s110EQ If you are not yet […]
https://youtu.be/0amX3eQQerM Coach Naja and Christina Nelson, host of The Radical Stepmoms Podcast chat about dealing with a diagnosed HCBM. It’s a whole different ballgame when there is tangible proof that your stepkid’s mum has a verified mental illness or personality disorder. There are two ways to grab this content. If you enjoyed this chat, […]
Feelings of rejection from our stepkids can lead to total disengagement and apathy. The first few years of a blended family can be marked with fear, anger, and confusion. Psychology teaches us that it takes the average family 5 to 7 years to blend and those moments can feel excruciating. When a stepmom and her […]
VIPJessica is experiencing hardship because her Husband’s ex has broken up with another boyfriend and she is projecting her wrath with a vengeance. In this episode, Naja teaches how to deal when someone drops their load on your lawn. Be prepared to laugh out loud and make some grand declarations of your own! If […]
Belinda Munro stopped by to catch up with Naja and reminisce on their days as single Harlem girls. She talks glow up, marriage, stepparenting, fertility, and much much more! Belinda is a multi-talented Vocalist, Songwriter, Performance Coach, and Mentor who ignites the unspoken with her Powerful vocals, grace, poise, and dynamic stage presence. She […]
Holidays are stressful enough! Throw in the blended family dynamic and a global pandemic and it can be pure pandemonium. Blended family expert, Coach Naja shares some tips on how to stay sane during this holiday season.
Coach Naja answers some very specific questions about her stepmom journey. A podcast listener got curious about your fave expert and decided to shoot her shot by asking Naja some specifics about her own circumstances. In this very transparent interview, Naja discusses what she would do if her stepkids came to love with her, how […]
In a land far away, HCSMs are trodding around wreaking havoc on their ready-made families. In this VIPod episode, Naja breaks down the why’s behind HCSMs and how to handle the one in your life. If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you want to sign up for […]
Coach Naja delves into the cosmos and uncovers why certain stepmoms cannot overcome distractions from blended family drama. Distractions can derail progress and throw us irreparably off course and they can set up a never-ending cycle of confusion. Dive into this episode to learn how to escape the matrix and free yourself. If you are […]
So often, we find ourselves caught up in the words and ramblings from the “other household”. Sticks and stones can break our bones, but words can cause PTSD! Coach Naja discusses ways to diffuse what “she said” and how to squash crippling thoughts before they cause a mental infestation. Many times a biomom can spew […]
One of my absolute favorite topics to help clients tackle is high conflict people, mainly HCBMs. What I’ve found is they’re not big, scary monsters. They’re just pitiful beings that live their lives based on survival. While it’s nice to show compassion, these types of people can traumatize you and suck you into their dark […]
Sherelle Avery, founder of @dopemombrand discusses her journey from being a stepmom with 2 HCBMs to reaching a place of peace. Sherelle says, “I’ve learned so much over the years, so many ups and downs. I’m the step-parent who had to learn by trial and error. The step-parent who found the invisible boundaries and learned […]
Limits are essential for all interactions, even if they’re not romantic. Relationship boundaries define the unwanted behaviors of your partner. This article lists the boundaries you can set without endangering your relationship. Let’s say you’ve met the love of your life through Dating Rating. Your partner ticks all your boxes except for one small detail; […]
Parental alienation is something that most blended families will experience at some point. It can extremely intentional or passive. Either way, when a parent tries to negatively influence a child’s relationship with their other parent (or the parent’s partner and kids), it can not only be detrimental to the parent/child relationship, but the child is […]
Brittany Chatman is the owner of Chat With Bee, a popular lifestyle and social community. She’s an Air Force (Ret.) wife, (step)mom of three, a sister, a daughter, a career woman, blogger and freelance marketing creator, and a whole host of other things. After all, that’s what being a superwoman is about — right? As […]
Your membership at VIPStepmom.com has major perks! Earn points for doing things you’d normally do on a website like this, like commenting on group conversations, making posts, and reading our awesome content. Your membership essentially pays for itself! Here’s how to earn points: 50 points 1 year membership Anniversary 1 point each time you […]
Below is the transcription of this month’s VIPod. Hello Hello VIPs This is Coach Naja your hostess with the mostess. Okay, that totally didn’t come out how I plan so today I want to talk about the pig. You heard me right today VIPs like going we’re talking about pigs D iD iD iD […]
This month’s Expert is Bree Gordon. She’s a Stepmom and she’s a Music Therapist. Her work is so transformative because she helps us use music as a healing tool. in this workshop, she even teaches us how to write our own song. Naja stopped by Bree’s podcast. Listen here. About Bree: Bree earned her Bachelor’s […]
Back on Episode 26 of my public podcast, I Know I’m CRAZY with Naja Hall, April easily became a stepmom fan favorite and she’s back to give IKIC listeners some advice as only she can! This time April is dishing on her relationship with someone’s baby daddy and she gives other stepmoms keen advice […]
by Nika Ward Did you know that June is World Infertility Month? If you’re a woman that has experienced infertility, you’re already are aware. Did you know that infertility is a condition that can cause post-traumatic stress disorder? After watching a recent Insecure episode, it really hit me how quiet the infertility community is about […]
Priscilla Appeaning, founder of The Stepmums Club sat down for a candid chat with VIPStepmom. Cilla is responsible for the viral video produced by BBC that forged a tense conversation between biomums and stepmums. In a spirited conversation, Cilla and Naja dug deep into high-conflict coparents, getting ignored by baby mamas, and the cycle of […]
When I was a baby blogger, Kate Chapman was one of the seasoned experts that sewed into my work. She took the time to befriend me, and she even contributed to my mission. Over the years, Kate’s impact on the blended family community still holds true and she stopped by to chat grief, stepparenting, and […]
I was chatting with one of my mentors this morning @davidegoodin and he said, “Ya know young lady, the problem is a lot of people are married to one another that shouldn’t be.” That was the realest sh*t ever because it’s so painfully true. A lot of stepmoms have found themselves in love with a […]
Being a stepmom is NOT my most important role but… My role as a stepmom was ONCE responsible for 100% of my anxiety, sadness, and displeasure with my relationship. It seemed like the man of my dreams was attached to something from my nightmares. All I wanted to do was have a good relationship, but […]
UPDATE: We’ve created an eBook and a cute little video to accompany this topic. Some members have reported that their men appreciate when the For Your Man content is packaged more concisely. xoxo Naja Dear Dads, Please know that we admire, love, and adore you which is why we agreed to commit to you for […]
Resource Guide to Understanding Cognitive Distortions Take Naja’s Cognitive Distortions Course Listen to Cognitive Distortions podcast (or watch it HERE) The types of Cognitive Distortions Cognitive Distortions: When Your Brain Lies to You (+ PDF Worksheets) The Relationship between Depression Severity and Cognitive Errors Cracking the NUTS and Eliminating the ANTS Worksheet Problematic Thinking Habits […]
Naja chats about the lies that we tell ourselves and ways to conquer those gross little thoughts in our minds. You can listen or watch this episode! Or both!!
As a Master Stepfamily Coach, my days are filled with sorting through the lamentations of individuals and stepfamilies in transition. As a stepmom, I have a personal and a professional vantage point that allows me to help my clients navigate their emotions because I’ve experienced some of the exact feelings. In this tutorial, I decided to […]
I’m a Life Coach in real life and I want to share a true story with you. Last year, I had a Client that was beautiful, talented, driven, but just a bit unsure about the trajectory of her life and her relationship. She initially came to me because she was having a hard time dealing […]
Corona and Coparenting I’ve received many questions from single parents, coparents, and stepparents during this historic pandemic and my BEST piece of advice is to protect your household. Social distancing and quarantines are proven to be effective methods of limiting the spread of infectious disease BUT what do you do when your child lives in […]
Naja Hall, founder of VIPStepmom.com recently sat down with Kristen Skiles of Stepmomming.com to chat on childless stepmoms, infertility, and how to deal with the complex feelings that come along with such a circumstance. Infertility affects women and men equally (15 million people in the U.S. annually). … For women between 26 to 34 years, 13% […]
Kristen Skiles of the popular blog stepmomming.com, stopped by to share some of the most surprising things she experienced as a stepmom. Her story is quite unorthodox because she and her CoMama started a business together and they were even roomies at one point. She’s since learned some serious lessons on boundaries and a few […]
https://youtu.be/hKhQarBkuxE Nancy, my mom chats on 43 years of marriage. Mom dishes advice on how she stayed married to my dad. At one point I ask her if she understands my job, is she proud of me and has she forgiven her father for abandoning my Grandma. This is probably the most in-depth conversation I’ve […]
I recently held a live Masterclass for For Burned Out Stepmoms and of course my VIPs get easy access to the replay! If you attended, then you know this was a transformational session. We got to connect, learn, and grow. Just a heads up, this is a very intense session and there is a lot […]
The death of 41-year old basketball star, Kobe Bryant, leads Naja to share an up-close and personal story of her own. She shares the experience of a close friend whose husband became incapacitated BUT his children’s mothers showed no compassion. This woman’s life became a nightmare. Naja gives 3 very important points to bring up […]
https://youtu.be/93MmhUSU5KI In this month’s expert workshop, Naja sat down with psychologist @Dr. Jennelle to discuss a topic very familiar to women in our community. At some point in our relationships, stepmoms think about calling it quits because this role can be too much. When surveyed, over 64% of VIPStepmoms replied that if they could have […]
My name is Jennifer with Blended Family Hell on Earth. I’ve been a bio mom for 28 years and a stepmom for almost 10 years. Collectively, Hubster and I have 6 kids ages 14, 17, 19 (his) & 21, 25, 28 (mine). In 2010, I went into this “last wife” relationship as a hopeful, romantic, […]
When our stepkids seem to suffer from their parents’ actions, it’s natural to feel sad for them. In this episode, Naja digs deep into the psychodynamic that occurs when a stepmom struggles because of her empathy for her stepkids. Be prepared to hear some hard truths and a shocking breakdown of the root of why […]
In this month’s Expert Workshop, I chat with Coach Latoya C. She has been married for 14 years and her custodial stepmothehood experience has taught her many lessons on humility, patience, and love. Although her two stepchildren are older, she can very much observe the aftermath of coexisting with a HCBM. Also, she JUST became […]
The holiday season is usually an exciting time for many Americans. While most are preparing to spend quality time with their loved ones, there is one particular group that is already starting to feel the pangs of frustration, isolation, and depression. There are roughly 14 million stepmothers in this country and 62% express emotional distress […]
OMG VIPs! My beautiful friend Karen shared this with me and I wanted to pass it on to women that are committed to living abundantly. I suggest listening to this each morning before you start your day and at night before bed. I am in a season where I need abundance so I’ve been manifesting […]
For this month’s Expert Workshop, I chatted with Bill Gobin, a custodial dad that went to family court 47 times AND WON! As a fellow coach, Bill provides the perspective of a Dad that successfully navigated two HCBMs. So many stepmoms suffer because their men do not know how to stand up to BM and/or […]
Part of my job as a key support system for Stepmoms is to ALSO support the men you love. Our new section, For Your Man is getting much love because it is content that is curated for your man. I’m excited to share this month’s VIPod because it’s our 1st one that speaks to HIS […]
How many times have you read an article that totally speaks to your stepmom struggles and got excited? You instantly feel the notion that the author understands your pain and you send the link to your man in hopes that he’ll get it too? The problem is your man has a tough time seeing things from your perspective because that article was for you, NOT HIM!
We want your Man to be just as invested in results as you are. There are so many tools out there for stepmoms, and now we’re pouring efforts into helping HIM cope with his HCBM, teaching HIM how to deal with dad guilt and much more. Visit www.VIPStepmom.com to join today!
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I had a chance to chat with Emili Wadkins, the creator of The Unapologetic Stepmom Facebook Group. We spoke about the common misconceptions of new stepmoms, how to really identify a high conflict mom and how she has managed to remain Unapologetic. Be sure to show her some love and stop by Emili’s pages, Facebook […]
I know how you feel I’m well aware that women that chose to pursue relationships with men with kids experience a gamut of emotions such as anxiety, depression, confusion, and helplessness. As a Stepmom, I’ve felt each of these emotions too. It’s really easy to get consumed while coping with a high conflict mom, a […]
Founder, VIPStepmom, Naja Hall attended the press conference for the National Parents Organization. NPO presented their Shared Parenting Report Card. They also screened the Erasing Family Documentary by Ginger Gentile. New York City and Rhode Island got a big fat F. What is your state’s grade? Check out the Report Card A study just […]
I’ve been digging deep into the mindset of narcissists. I want to humanize them in order to help you to understand them. Ultimately, the goal is to teach how to be less traumatized by their actions. Here is a personal account that Vermeer, a friend of VIPStepmom put together about their […]
Naja sits with Kennisha (biomom of 3), an engaged SM who is trying to learn tools to maintain her sanity and her relationship while dealing with a HCBM. She and her partner got together while he was divorcing his childhood sweetheart ex. The relationship was toxic and resulted in 3 kids. Kennisha and her fiance […]
Does your stepkid’s mom refuse to recognize the contribution you make to her kid’s life? Naja chats about the lack of acknowledgment many stepmoms DO NOT get from biomom and how to move past the frustration and #beGreater If you are not yet a member, click HERE to join now! If you want […]
I’ve built an entire coaching practice around Comama Drama. When I began my studies, the question I aimed to answer was: “Why are Mothers and Stepmothers natural enemies?” Over time, much of my focus has shifted to understanding high conflict mothers and teaching stepmothers how to be happy and unbothered despite the HCBM in their […]
I chatted with The Teenager Whisperer, Kirsten Cobabe for my public podcast, “I know I’m crazy.” After we wrapped up the public portion, she and I broke away to discuss stepmom specific tactics. She has a very unorthodox way of dealing with teenagers and I think this will help many of us understand the positions […]
https://youtu.be/5fLtXz9w90Q I chatted with Family Law Attorney Kimberly Cook about the implications of social media and how it can harm a court case. Be careful what you put out there because it can be used against you and your family. ABOUT OUR GUEST: Kimberly Cook is a Partner at Schiller DuCanto & Fleck, LLP, the […]
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others This ebook is based is one of the most genius things I’ve ever come across. Basically, a research team, led by John T. Molloy conducted 3,000 interviews. They interviewed couples coming out of marriage license bureaus! They basically bum-rushed these people for information. I recall how excited, […]
I was married for 23 years. Nothing particularly new happened in 23rd year except the culmination of personal unhappiness and lack of communication left unaddressed for years. The result was divorce in the 23rd year. One could say the cause of our divorce was me being unfaithful to my wife. That’s an easy and convenient […]
Q: Last night my fiance revealed some things to me that I was not aware of. Prior to our relationship, we were friends I knew that he had suffered from depression after the birth of his daughter because she was taking away at 3 months and he did not see her again until she was […]
My husband and I have joint custody of a loving 3-year-old. His mother and I are on pretty good terms – we text about our son (re: social activities etc.) We’ve shared a few LOL’s but nothing too deep. Q: Well, I’m pregnant (shhhh) and we are preparing soon-to-be Big Brother for the change in […]
My clients Denver and Ayshia are a Mom+Stepmom combo that are experiencing a common dilemma. It’s common for children and custodial parents to suffer separation anxiety when the child spends time with their noncustodial parent. This often leads to intrusive phone calls which interrupt bonding time with the child’s other family. During this session, the […]
Q: I’ve had HCBM blocked for 5 years. Since the kids are with us for the summer, DH and I decided to allow her to contact me. That lasted for 2 days!!! “Thanks for taking great care of my kids.” (2 minutes later) “You will never be able to attend a birthday, graduation or wedding […]
Guest submission When I began my journey as a stepmother, I was 26, about 7 months pregnant with twins, completing a Master’s Program, and at a job I hated. I was often back and forth to Child Support Court with my first biological son’s father. In that space, I was not emotionally ready to begin […]
by Jennifer Pink Here’s the question of the day? Are you a high conflict bio parent? In the @VIPStepmom community we use abbreviations or terms instead of names to describe the person we are referring to. One commonly used phrase is HCBM “High Conflict Bio Mom”. In all fairness for the sake of this blog […]
My Stepdaughter got $450 for birthday and Christmas from her dad and I, and other members of my family (grandparents etc). Her dad has told her it has to stay at our house for two reasons. One being we don’t trust her mom not to take it from her, and also we would like to be with […]
dis·en·gage (dsn-gj) v. dis·en·gaged, dis·en·gag·ing, dis·en·gag·es 1. To release from something that holds fast, connects, or entangles. 2. To release (oneself) from an engagement, pledge, or obligation. To free or detach oneself; withdraw. “Disengage from the situation!” “Just disengage from your stepchild if they are causing you pain!” “I would just disengage from my husband if he was acting like that.” These […]
https://youtu.be/1g-4QvqmOMM This month we had a great coaching call. Each member told us how she has contributed to the chaos and conflict in her family. There were many epiphanies and moments of clarity. Check out the playback and be sure to check your email, follow @VIPStepmom on Instagram, join the VIP Facebook group and […]
Have you ever felt that your man was showing WAY too much grace to his unrelenting coparent? Is he weak? Does he still want her? Is he just stupid? Well, our fellow VIP, Kiya is dealing with this right now. To get the full backstory, click HERE. I recorded a quick video response for her […]
Naja Hall chats with Lisa Williams, a coach and custodial stepmom. She became an unexpected full-time stepmother to a recently diagnosed autistic four-year-old, with one weeks notice. She was forty-two years old! The child was four. The bio mother was very high-conflict. Lisa had already raised three kids. She thought her life was over. Lisa […]
https://youtu.be/hggMQ_Hm8lU This is probably going to be my longest podcast ever, but I had to get a whole lotta ish off my chest! I’m pretty sure you can identify with a lot of what I’m saying in this pod. It walks you through my process of facing drama and then dealing with it. If […]
Dear Naja, I, myself, am a stepmom…. but I also have a birth child that I share with my ex and his wife. So in this case, my question is as a birth mom not sure how to deal with a stepmom. My issue is that this stepmom is SERIOUSLY overbearing and does not know […]
https://youtu.be/8_KWHCDPwD4 Stepmom! Hey girl hey! Here’s a bit of advice that I almost learned TOO LATE! I know it sucks to see your partner deal with conflict from his coparent. As his Wonder Woman, it is natural to want to swoop in and save the day. 🛑Stop🛑 I want you to switch gears and work […]
As a Stepmom, you really don’t know what you are getting into until you are in it! If only there was insight or a potential roadmap for your Stepmotherhood journey. Well there is, it’s your partners’ divorce decree and custody agreement. And you should read it! Why you are asking yourself? I should do What? […]
Stepmothering is probably one of the toughest roles I’ve held to date. It’s not even so much the actual ‘mothering’ part. I enjoy being present in the lives of my stepchildren. I’m thankful to have the privilege of watching them grow up. I have been blessed with three really cool humans, so I am one […]